Been separated from W for several months after finding out about an A with a co-worker. We tried to R, but it was false and she kept in contact. Finally, I decided to go NC after she asked for divorce (again). I agreed to file the paperwork, but before I could, she asked me not to. I suspected it had to do with the fact that the A ended when word of it got out. Since then, she's been unsure whether to stay or leave. Two months ago I moved 400 miles away to a new job. She was glad for me and wanted to move to the same area as well. Since then, she has indicated that she missed me, but has shown no interest in reconciliation. She has contacted me and will do so via text or e-mail. I will generally respond, but I don't initiate any of the conversations. Right now I am moving on with my life and not worrying about the marriage right now. Last week one of my coworkers mentioned that there was a job that was perfect for her in a building where I am at sometimes. I have been assisting her with her job hunt but am unsure if I should tell her about this one. It doesn't require us being in contact, but there is a potential for us to run across each other theoretically. On the flip side, this could be one step towards a reconciliation. Thoughts?
I would tell her but I would make very very sure it was in the middle of a conversation already started by her looking for a job. I would want it to be said along with other options and in a way where you dont come off trying to "win" her back
