Rob to refresh your memory... the only sex she is getting right now is in manual mode during phone sex. OM is in South America... and I'll repeat: "NO, it's not me!"
well we won't hold our breath, we know this is hard for you Rob but the longer you take to do this, the longer you're going to have to deal with these issues.
Also, one important thing, if after you do this and she gets angry and "rejects" you, you just smile at her, don't get angry, upset or emotional if she rejects you, in fact, look forward to this, assume 100% that this will happen. But stick to the script I gave you and follow it up with, "look you don't have to do any of this but you don't think I'm going to live for the rest of my life without sex do you? C'mon you're a smart girl, I'm a guy, and us guys enjoy good sex. I don't think we're going to feel comfortable sleeping in the same bed together because I've gotten aroused by all this arguing and sex talk, it's probably better that you sleep on the couch, you don't want to be in the same bed with me tonight wink wink"
No getting angry, you smile, you expected her response, it's almost funny because she did it exactly as we thought she would and when she gets out of the bed to sleep on the couch, throw a pillow at her and ask her to close your door and then proceed to occupy the entire space of the bed by stretching your body.
And don't you dare apologize or say sorry or something else foolish and wussy like.
Rob to refresh your memory... the only sex she is getting right now is in manual mode during phone sex. OM is in South America... and I'll repeat: "NO, it's not me!"
It's still sex that our buddy is not having with her.
Robx and Gnosis; thanks for taking the time to input.I always remain calm, cool and collected . No longer have i resorted to crying, begging , persuading, etc.... I probably did "not" state my boundaries as you would have liked. I did my best at the time under the circumstances. I'm being honest here. She leaves in three weeks. We live and work together in the house. Kid is away at school. No fighting , arguing, yelling, or the like. Question?? what type of demeanor from me will give me a chance here. ? I try to stay clear of her, but she seems to want me around, at least most of the time. Even wants me to work out at gym with her. Do i give the cold shoulder? Is that how I'll want her to remember me when she's in florida? Please imput. thanks
You don't give her the "cold shoulder", that implies being mean or cold to her, you be fine, good, happy with your life.
As for when she wants you "around" or to go the gym with her, you get ready like you're going out on a date and tell her "sorry maybe another time, going out with a friend, talk to you later"
trying to have PMA , but very hard. Gnosis...wife is still asking me to go to florida with her. Then, she said i should try to go down every few weeks and she'll come up periodically???
I should add....maybe this is normal...but..Robx and Gno, i really don't feel like trying to have sex with her at this point. Maybe fear of further rejection, but also , the "desire" is low. Maybe the AD med??
Friends:wife moves out in 2 weeks! I've avoided R talk, but some was inevitable. She said she wants me to come down for the move, and visit every few weeks when i can. I'm waiting for an appt with lawyer. Is there Anything besides detachment, GAL..? i can be doing, saying,etc... I'm trying so hard to be not clingy, needy. But i'm really depressed. HURTING!! thanks
I should add....maybe this is normal...but..Robx and Gno, i really don't feel like trying to have sex with her at this point. Maybe fear of further rejection, but also , the "desire" is low. Maybe the AD med??
uggg!!!
"I really don't feel like"
STOP!
That's how you've been operating all this time, I feel scared, I feel weak, I feel ineffectual, I feel small, etc. etc. etc.
And that's what made you LOOK & ACT unattractive.
How about some discipline and doing things not because you feel like doing them but because you know you have to do them: being calm, confident and decisive.
That's why you're in your current situation, because you "feel" too much.
