(hope that link works...) but my situation is thus:
Wife admitted that my continuing suspicions are true, which are that she is in love with the other guy, their relationship continues (she denies sex with him since we've been in counseling, but I ain't dumb), yada yada. Sounds textbook to me. So I called her out on it and said we needed to separate, and we had a rational discussion about it last night and tonight. She is out of the house, and we agreed that she will find an extended stay hotel here in town for the time being and go from there.
Part of me is relieved-she admitted what I already suspected. I also think she will realize (at least I hope!) that this affair isn't all roses. But the other part of me is terrified that I'm sending her into his arms with consent.
Would appreciate words of wisdom from those who are further along in this separation process. My wife seems somewhat excited about having this newfound freedom. I'm trying to be upbeat and not pout, etc, and follow all the right techniques from the books, but I guess I just need some outside perspective to hang my hat on.
I sent a post to your other thread. Why have you started a new one? It's okay, but makes it hard for people to keep up with where you are when you have more than one.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
