I don't have a lot of time now, but I am not feeling good about myself. Alot has been happening and I feel very alone and don't know what to do. I will try to go into more detail later, but since August I have had a lot on my plate-with working 2 jobs, taking on the house chores, found I had colon cancer-hopefully that is fixed. I don't seem to get any support or help. My mom passed away this year and I have my dad to worry about, my daughter isn't grieving well. It is just so much. I can't really talk to anyone- no time and no one cares.
Afraid, You have had a lot on your plate and it looks like that plate is still very heavy. You need to find a grief support group for you and your family, especially your father.
Your health has taken a beating. Please try to take care of yourself. We do care and are here for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Afraid Yes the the road is hard and long It takes a toll on all of us snodderly is right please try to take care of your self Yoga meditation pryer counseling it all helps yes there are many support groups and 12 stewp groups are free and everywhere
hang in there peace
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I meant no one cares here. That I am asking for help with the house and things they should be doing. I did come home tonight and my H did do some things. Everyone thinks I just yell- they don't get it. I will find time to go into more detail soon. Thanks for listening- Glad to hear from you Snodderly.
To say your plare is full and heavy is an understatement.
Please don't take this the wrong way, but if they think all you do is "yell", how are you asking for help? I know I have had to learn to ask differently and for specifically what I want.
I hope your health continues to improve and that you are able to find a way of receiving the help you need.
Afraid, I'm w/Grace on this one. If they say you are yelling, maybe try to change the way you ask for help. A softer tone or if you've asked 3/4 times and it doesn't get done, leave it. Do not do it yourself. You see, you've always been the strong one and the person who has done everything for everyone else, even during the crisis. It's time now to step back and allow your family to see that you are the one that needs help.
If you find yourself bubbling up and ready to raise your voice or lose your temper over something, walk away, take a walk outside or go into another room and beat the crap out of a pillow.
I know you've had a lot on your plate for a very long time and you are just plain tired. The holidays aren't helping you either. It sounds like you may need to seek the assistance of a counselor or a grief counselor at best. We are here for you, but we are not counselor and can only offer up what we think is best. A professional may suggest putting you on ADs or upping your current medication. It's time to seek him/her out for assistance. Your health is number one now. Focus on your health....it's very important.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I meant I hope it wasn't my turn because Since I went thru this with H he has been ok, but I work at a college and recently I find myself getting attention from a student that normally I wouldn't even think twice. I am too old to find this amusing. Last year( an older, younger than me though) student had asked me out-told him I was married. I don't know if it is just my frustrations and someone is actually talking to me or what to make of this.
