Thanks Gno! I plan to keep journaling regularly again. Just got so behind and felt overwhelmed with catching it up. I am one of those people who wants to do it in a certain way to help myself and for future reference and if I knew I wasn't ready to do it that way, then just didn't do it at all.
I feel so much relief in getting that all out now and having it behind me again. Always seems like a release when I can write it out. Thanks again for following my sitch and for your continued support and encouraging words!
Me-34 XH-33 No Kids We were M-12Y T-15Y 5/09 Same house-separate bedrooms 01/10 I filed for D / H moved out 09/16/10 Divorced
It seems you took a snippet of my story and did not bother to read the rest as to WHY I was awarded what I was.
(A) I live in a fault state and my H had an affair (B) During the course of our 22 month court case my H stole our car, wiped out 6 figures of joint assets on his affair and moved three times w/o telling me (C) He squandered well in the 6 figures on legal proceedings for close to 2 years only to back down the day before our trial started (D) I have a disease called SLE and in my state a criteria for division is the health of both spouses. Seeing how SLE has no cure, well, my organs could shut down at any time.
So, no, it wasn't me trying to rape him.
Good for you AFG - I know this hurts and is frightening to deal with but I am proud of you!
Well, I just wanted to post the concluding outcome to my divorce-busting sitch. In my case, it turned out to be divorce finalized, and the very best thing in the world for me.
I was hired as a temp in a full-time job in April with a huge hospital network in my area. I ended up living in the rental house by myself, with H paying for everything there, until end of May. In June, I moved into a little 1-bedroom apartment, that I have all to myself (no memories of XH with me here). In July, I was hired on directly through my employer. In August, I received a promotion and a raise. In September, our divorce was finalized - I got all of our household possessions, all of his 401k, and monthly alimony for a year. All through this past year I have made countless new friends, including one best friend, and more support and love than I could ever imagine. I am busy, re-connected, and plugged back into life again.
Re-reading through the past year and all that happened, it still seems surreal. But I am truly grateful to be on the other side now, with a world full of opportunity and possibility that I embrace each day. Not saying there still aren't bad days and lows that I experience, but they are just easier to manage and accept and tell myself that "hey, it's ok to feel this way, and tomorrow's another day". The belief in myself, that I am good enough, that I am worthy enough, and totally deserving of a terrifically, wonderful, completely honest, faithful, committed, and valued relationship builds and gets stronger within me every day.
To all those who are experiencing so much grief and turmoil right now - In whatever outcome your particular sitch takes, I wish you peace and the notion that it will be better for you. It does get better.
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Me-34 XH-33 No Kids We were M-12Y T-15Y 5/09 Same house-separate bedrooms 01/10 I filed for D / H moved out 09/16/10 Divorced
I have thought about you from time to time and wondered how you were doing.
So glad to hear how you are doing. YOU are a success story for what you have done for yourself. You overcame a horrible situation and came out with your self respect intact.
