Posted November 27, 2009 06:02 PM long story short as i can make it.
3+ years ago h went into a depression.treated with a/d. seemed to help.
12/06 we moved 600 miles away from family and friends.
05/07 h's dad has quadruple bypass...h drives home to see him through the surgery.
7/07 h starts drinking, staying out late a pretty much not caring a whole lot about anything. his marriage and myself are to blame...he is unhappy.
2/08 we move back 600 miles to our hometown. things seem better for a while then it starts again...
8/08 i take a stroke, no permanent damage thank god...things are tight with me not working for a while...
h is more restless, cant sleep, aggitated achy and just not happy, me and the marriage again
8/09 h blows up at me and me at him...he leaves. he has been out since. 10/09 h goes for check up a/d arent working symptoms are worse. dr orders bloodwork, comes back depleted testosterone. rx's androgel. dr explains andropause, low t, hormones in general and mlc. h is in denial. i keep praying.
10/09 take a vaca as a family have the BEST time ever.
11/09 go to a concert with h have a great time
h has always been here often as we have 2 small children. we do everything for them together.they are our lives.
thanksgiving was good, guys got everything ready for hunting season, women cooked, went to in laws for dessert awesome evening.
today h is in woods all day again for hunting preparations. finally calls at dinner time , i get pissed cause the man never checks his messages...anyways to explain why i was pissed, our daughter called him HOURS ago to tell him of her first loose tooth. now he is screaming at me because im a bit angry. tells me he cant do this anymore, all he does is try to make us happy and is told how and what he does is wrong. never appreciated. as of the 1st of the year he is filing for divorce... says he has tried to explain to me he needs time to work on himself and i wont back off.he cant take it, he's done
WHAT do I do now...i have been in conseling for almost a year and have truly corrected the issues i needed to...i was needy, didnt like him to do things without me, complained about money being tight...i though ALL people went through these things...I am FLOORED, i believed we were standing a chance as things were going a bit better on both ends.
I dont know if this is his way of forcing me to shut up and back off or if he truly means it... I as well as friends and family can see it that he want to come home...divorce??? can this have such a strong hold on him? cycling? please give me some input! _________________________ me 39 h 38 ( in mlc for 3+ years) kids 8 and 5 h left 8/9/09 bomb mid oct 09 loving and devoted wife and mother
me 39 h 38 kids 9 and 6 h left 8/9/09 loving and devoted wife and mother still going...10 months later...
I re posted this in hope of getting more help. i am having a VERY hard time...
i am grasping the no contact thing. seems to not matter much today is day six...
its his mood swings and anger that are ripping me apart.
our daughter has staples in her head that need to come out today...he calls this morning and asks me what time tomorrow? i told him that it was today and he starts screaming...i hung up.
what can i do? i really feel stuck between a rock and a hard place...
i dont want to make him angrier...i know memory plays a part in this
its all about him...i get that too
what i dont get right now is him saying he is doing all he can to make us happy... by not being here? by screaming at me? by not doing hardly anything with our girls anymore???
how to let him see what he is REALLY doing??? i know ...probably no way to do that...aaaarrrggggg!!!!!
Last edited by lost1234; 12/03/0904:16 PM.
me 39 h 38 kids 9 and 6 h left 8/9/09 loving and devoted wife and mother still going...10 months later...
