Well, I can see where she got her brains from and its not Sparty.
Me-47 WAW-42 D-16 S-14 M-22 yrs T-19 yrs ILYBNILWY-3 years ago. Full Story and original posts: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...066#Post1781066
I don't think there is someone else. Unless he is getting his kicks off of flirting with the girls on the game. He plays constantly. I even joined thinking it would help us to connect (I have since quit). It is hard to fight against the game. It over takes him and all his attention. He blocks out the world.
M - 41 WAH - 41 D - 20 M-21 years T-24 years Separated - Nov 6, 2009
She is the only thing that keeps me going right now. It is hard to watch her struggle with this. We are very close and she is very angry with him. She is also talking to a counselor as well and I am hopeful that my happy, vibrant little girl will replace the angry one. Hard to believe he could hurt her like this but he is in his selfish mood right now and not worried about the wreckage he is leaving behind.
M - 41 WAH - 41 D - 20 M-21 years T-24 years Separated - Nov 6, 2009
Me-47 WAW-42 D-16 S-14 M-22 yrs T-19 yrs ILYBNILWY-3 years ago. Full Story and original posts: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...066#Post1781066
He will see the flaming wreckage that he has left behind, where you are when that happens is up to you.
They are able to justify the most incredible things when they are in their fog. One day he will be extremely ashamed of what hes done, and I hope that your D can clearly articulate to him exactly what this has done to her. I think that he is much more likely to hear her than you, well, hes not very likely to hear you AT ALL right now. Not that you should ask her to say something to him, but I dont think that she should hold back at all!
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
i've been seperated from my h for over a month now and he used to tell me just let him be to deal with his anger, he wants to work things out, don't pressure me, etc etc. i did do all of that. on the times we did see each other they were strained and i could not hold in my disgust for his choices and behavior.
i gotta believe he is human with feelings, i hope anyways and has a tremendous amount of guilt and shame for walking away from d2, me pregnant. he won't seek out any help for dealing with any of his emotions and will just drink to ignore his feelings and keep saying [censored] the bitch, meaning me.
when he goes days sometimes weeks without visiitng with daughter, she is upset with him at the age of 2 so i can only imagine how ur daughter must be feeling.
bluerain is right that your h will not hear you at this time, if he sat infront of you his eyes would gloss over, he'd fidget, check his phone/watch and make a quick retreat. i could be wrong but i've seen that in my h when i tried to 'get thru to him"
i have to believe they just aren't ready to deal with what has happened, little bit of denial.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
I know he won't hear me. Understanding all of this is the hardest part. I have been with him since I was 17 years old. He tells me that he isn't lost and not in a fog. I know him. I know his behaviors and emotions. The waiting is the hardest part.
M - 41 WAH - 41 D - 20 M-21 years T-24 years Separated - Nov 6, 2009
asked yourself how will you know he is doing little things to show you he is going towards those goals?
That way is is measurable by you and you can see the little things he does.
I've had no contact for 4 days, it's just the beginning of lrt and going dark even though we have non agreed to court counseling tuesday. even if he does not show it will not look good for him in the eyes of the court, he walked away from d2, me 7 mos pregnant high risk and not supporting us in any way. I think i'm doing good things. stress level is down.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
One of my goals was that he would get help for his depression. I set this because I think his depression is clouding his judgment. He has made a step in that direction.
We are suppose to meet this week to talk about finances. I will wait for him to call / text me to set it up. I am living in the house right now. He is renting a room in a house. He is feeling a bit confined. Maybe he is finding his independence and on his own isn't so great.
Glad to hear your stress level is down. Remember to take care of yourself first. As a mom I know that is not the easiest thing to do but the most important thing you can do for your children.
M - 41 WAH - 41 D - 20 M-21 years T-24 years Separated - Nov 6, 2009
This just from my experience: You're gonna have to wait awhile. Now is not the right time for pressure. Wait, get your emotions under control, work on YOU.
Then you'll be able to assess the situation better.
You'll most likely have to take baby steps towards him.