Thanksgiving day. A day to be grateful and reflect on all my blessings. This site saved my sanity in May of 08. I was lost, lonely, and starving for affection and attention. I made friends here that are a few of the best friends I have ever had.
I'm still not divorced, but I am better off. I am paying a high price, but the value I am receiving is even higher.
I am safe in my own home. I raised the bar for my children, showing them that an unhealthy relationship is not acceptable, nor will it be tolerated one day longer.
My 15 year old daughter told me the other day "mom you deserve to be happy, and I'm so glad that you are happier now".
Life is good.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Hi Bridge, I hope/want/will try to stick around. I'm trying to manage my free time better. Less unhealthy distractions, and more healthy ones.
bluerain......I do love your signature line. lol
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
I read your threads this past week, while I was down w/pneumonia. I identify w/a lot of what you went through, even though I don't think I would define my H's treatment of me, as abuse, just neglect (now).
You are remarkable. I wonder if it will take me 2500 posts to gain some of your strength! I just started to see some coming out of the woodwork this week.
Keep us updated. You are inspiring.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
mindfull, Thank you so much for sharing with me. I doubt it will take you 2500 posts. I had a bunch of childhood baggage that added to the marital baggage.
The fact that you are seeing some of it this week (while down with pneumonia) already shows that you are stronger than you realize.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Cookie - I know you are busy this weekend w/ kids, but when you are back... You'll never know how you helped me last year. You know me better than most of my RL friends. May you enjoy a blessed holiday, and remember, there's always room at my table for one more! love, Goldey p.s. My current thread is in 'I Need Support' but it looks like I'll be moving to 'Separated' soon.
Me:44, WAW hx bi-polar H:48, hx of abuse S:22, S:19, D:16 Filed Oct 08, dismissed Filed again Jan 10, dismissed Now Piecing alter persona: SuperBoots
Life is good.