I think you are reading CMF right. Besides, he's already not showing respect to you, or the woman he told you he is seeing. I think you are kind of a diversion to him.
I agree with John and Jeff. There are much, much better options out there. You deserve someone who is 100% into you, not 50%, 75%, or even 95%. Rather, the whole enchilada!
He basically told me on the phone yesterday that he had an hour to kill waiting for the bar manager so did I want to meet up...
Remember what it says in He's Just Not That Into You:
Busy = A**hole
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
Talked on the phone to Cartoons/Artist (C/A)today, he called and we made general plans to meet tomorrow. I was supposed to call him back later, so I did this evening. We are going to meet for lunch at a large outdoor shopping center in West Omaha. Lots of stores they don't have over on my side of the river, nice restaurants, coffee shops, etc. Plan to walk around and talk and just see what's out there. He lives in Lincoln, an hour away from me, so we are trying to meet somewhere in between...
It was kind of awkward b/c Dan was at the house at lunchtime when C/A called. He came over this morning and we took the kids sledding. We were supposed to review a few last-minute details this afternoon prior to me drafting the settlement on Tuesday. So I talked to C/A for about 15 minutes while Dan was with the kids.
This evening Dan came back over and we took the kids to see Santa. I know it won't always be this way (us doing stuff together) but I am choosing to do it this year, to give our kids one more good Christmas as they would like it to be. Mostly, anyway. I won't be going to SILs for Christmas Eve this year, but I will have the kids Christmas morning.They will come back to my house late Christmas Eve night so they can wake up in their own beds to see what Santa brought them.
With the settlement coming up in a couple days, I am feeling some mixed emotions. Of course there is sadness regret that my kids won't wind up with the intact, original family, as I always wanted them to. But there is also the realization that I did everything to the best of my ability to restore our marriage, but it ultimately wasn't a decision I could make without Dan's effort and interest.
So I am sad for them but also cautiously optimistic for the future. I know that I will ultimately be in a loving relationship again because that is what I am wired for. I don't know if that holds true for Dan. I can picture him being in relationships, but I can't really picture him being happily married again where I know that one day, I will be...
Oh and CMF texted at 6:15 telling me to come out to his show tonight at an area bar and bring my friends. We talked about this show last night, and generally I get the vibe he really wants to network and drum up audiences. I don't blame him. But I really don't see this as an opportunity for a relationship. So I am going to treat him as an old friend, and act accordingly.
OK time to fold laundry so I have something to wear to lunch tomorrow!
Hugs to you on the settlement papers... we are doing that this week too.
The good news is there is a better life for us out there. Even if it's with no one... I choose that over someone who treats me the way STBXH did any day.
Have fun and check in and let us know.
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
