I am struggling right now, thinking if I should take the next step. I found this thru someone else's (Chel's) link about MLC. I thought I'd post here in case someone finds it helpful.
It's titled :Steps Toward Reconciliation/Healing Trauma HealingOlga Botcharova (2001) Adaptations by Nancy Good Sider With further adaptations by K-R Stumpf
Injury *Shock *Pain *Denial
Realization of Loss *Denial Continues
Mourning & Expressing Grief
Accepting Loss & Confronting Fears
Re-humanize: "Why Them" *Recognizing Common humanity: Self in Other
Moving Beyond Tolerance *Finding Purpose, Survivor's Mission Choice to Forgive: Commitment to Take Risks *Re-member *Healing: Internal Process
"Re-Writing" History, Negotiating Solutions and Joint Planning *Revising Story *Recognize Mutual Responsibilities *Apology, Repentance *Finding Purpose, Sense and Meaning in Suffering
Establishing Justice That Restores
Moving Toward Reconciliation and Trauma-based Conflict Transformation
It's an honest step. Kalni, I like that you are eying this warily. Piecing is HARD, harder than most realize. I am glad that you aren't entertaining this fluffy head, full of rainbow notions that it isn't hard. I even like the fact that you aren't sure you can do it. Just tells me that you can...for the right reasons this time. For you, if you decide to.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Forgiveness is a personal journey, a process rather than a cognitive decision—which is merely an initial step in the process. It recognizes the failings of others as a reflection of shared humanity—empathy. It restores harmony and balance if not externally, then internally. It releases control, taking personal responsibility for Self and allowing others to choose or deny Forgiveness on their own. It creates a safe place for repentance and confession without judgment—though these may not happen.
They are not mine, I couldnt possibly use English that well. Still have my dictionary in hand trying to translate "repentance" ... WHAT DOES IT MEAN?????????????????
