Well, Going to make appt. with lawyer today and go in to see what my rights are. Not going to file any papers, I will let her do that. I really can't afford place on my own. Spent alot of time going over numbers. Just would not work. I am ok with selling house. I will just stay with brothers house for now. I have to look at this as a bump in road, and realize she could do a complete 180 herself and she would realize what she is missing. I just have to pick myself up, brush myself off and keep going forward and really just focus on me and D17. And not chase and persue W anymore. I am putting way to much pressure on her. I have alot in life to be happy about. I still have my family that support and love me, where she will only have herself. She has no family except her brother who will be angry with her for awhile for doing what she is doing and possibly her own daughter.
The house isn't sold yet, you are talking about things that haven't even happened yet and probably won't happen for quite some time. You don't need to worry about going to your brother's house, ....YOU GO HOME! Is english a 2nd language for you?
Well, It is over between wife and me. I did everything I was not suppose to do. I went over to house and told her that I am moving back in this weekend, she said no your not. I said yes I am. I said your the one who is not happy and wants to be alone so you should move out. Then she said you wont be able to afford this place on your own. Then she threatened filing papers tomorrow, and that house will go up for sale. Then I said the past 15 yrs you have used me and used me as your stepping stone to get where your are now. She said that she felt used also. She said I am not going to disrupt D17 life her final year of school. I then said that you do what you have to do. If you want to file papers tomorrow then go for it. Then I walked out. She then called me to say that she does want us to be civil through this. She did say that she has no feelings for me and that it is not fare to you. She said this has never been about you. It has always been about me. Ofcourse then I plead and beg her to reconsider that our marrige is worth something. After things really calmed down I asked her if I was a good husband to her and father to D17. I asked her if she respected me? She said yes. And then I asked her if she had ever cheated on me. She said no. Then she said she was "different person and that I know who my real identity is". I told her that I will always love her and cherish our life that we shared and that I will miss her. I told that I have never regretted once getting involved with her. I said that I wish you all the best and that I hope someday you can meet someone to make you happy. I dissapointed a few people on this board and I am sorry. I did everything I was not suppose to do. I am not sure if I even want the house now. There will be just to many memories. I will start a new life and create new memories. I guess the best thing to come out of this is that I dont have to be in "limbo" anymore and I know what direction I am going now and it wont be with her. It is a big load of my chest.
Re-read your entire post, you're all over the place and you know why, she knows how to pull your strings, she controls you very well, you're a good little doggy. She got what she wanted and you're not home yet are you? Yes you demanded to go back home, she wanted to see if you were really man enough to go back home, so she threatened you with some stuff and you folded and she had you, "nice he's still weak, let's play with him a little" and she did and it worked, worked very well. And aren't you the nice guy, you hope she can meet someone new to make her happy - UGGG!!! Love it, that's a real attraction booster if I ever heard of one, please meet someone new, I'm not man enough for you and I'll admit it to you and hope you can find another man to have sex with and share your life with. And then you put the cherry on the sunday by trying to convince us that you're not going to live in limbo and that it's a huge load off your chest - nice! Thanks for telling us that, I'm sure you want to convince someone of that crap because you know you're not convinced of it.
MAN UP!!!
GEEEZ!!!!
Go back home, I'll say it enough times today until you get sick of it. You want your wife & family back, you sure aren't showing that to me or anyone else here and you aren't showing that to your wife either. Are you interested in getting any of that back or more importantly are you interested in living a life where you are comfortable and choose the direction it goes in? You aren't going to accomplish any of that acting like the wuss you've displayed so proudly for us in your posts.
GO BACK HOME!
Do you require me to write this in other languages so that it's easier to understand?
... and walk right in YOUR front door and move back home. And if she throws a $hit fit you say, "I had an epiphany. I am going to enjoy MY bed and MY couch and MY color TV. And I am going to sit on the porch with a shot gun if D17'd date doesnt get her home by 11. And if you want to divorce and want to sell the house so be it. I AM NOT GOING DOWN THAT EASY."
Greatest advise I have read in a long time. Grow a pair of nuts. She is not in control of YOU. Even if she changes the locks, Get a locksmith to get you into YOUR house!
One thing to watch out for is restraining orders. Even if they are BS, the one who files gets the other one removed. Get legal advise on that right away.
GET BACK IN THE HOUSE.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
... and walk right in YOUR front door and move back home. And if she throws a $hit fit you say, "I had an epiphany. I am going to enjoy MY bed and MY couch and MY color TV. And I am going to sit on the porch with a shot gun if D17'd date doesnt get her home by 11. And if you want to divorce and want to sell the house so be it. I AM NOT GOING DOWN THAT EASY."
Greatest advise I have read in a long time. Grow a pair of nuts. She is not in control of YOU. Even if she changes the locks, Get a locksmith to get you into YOUR house!
One thing to watch out for is restraining orders. Even if they are BS, the one who files gets the other one removed. Get legal advise on that right away.
GET BACK IN THE HOUSE.
Am I missing something here, restraining order? Was someone abusive to someone?
I know what you guys are say, and you KNOW I agree with it, but I don't think he's up for it. I honestly don't think he has it in him. Puppy
I think my feelings can best be summed up in the final line of Dirty Harry. When Harry Callahan says, "Well do ya punk?"
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I've read your thread the past couple days. I don't post alot and have been piecing the past couple of weeks in my sitch so haven't been updating my thread but still read others because of the nuggets of wisdom on this site.
Listen to them. Go back home. I almost left my house and these folks turned me around and I ended up staying. It was one of the only things I did right.
Don't listen to what she says. They told you the reaction before you heard it from her. It's script. I was told the same things as you about a month ago (if that long). Don't give up yet. There will be a time when you may have to, but I don't think it is at this moment. You are at a crossroads.
She's the one breaking apart the family, not you. Don't let her twist it on you. Put your game face on and then go cry in your room when it's over because that what will happen and it's ok. Hold it togehter while you move your stuff in. It's an important moment.
Me: 30 W: 29 D: 20 months M: 5 years T: 6.5 years ILYBNILWY and want to separate: 10/5/2009
