Previously had put my story out there. Relationship had gone south 7 yrs ago with her involved in multiple affairs. Came back together, but never healed. This summer, she said she wants out. Have tried "what works" and less of what doesnt. Talked about counseling, she recc'd mediation.
Without my knowledge, served divorce papers last week Wed. She locked down ALL finances. I had to borrow $ to even hire atty. Still trying to talk to her, but she has hired what 10 attys have describes as "despicable human being" as her lawyer and has fallen under his "spell." Cant seem to get her to talk to me w/o her reversing after she talks to atty. Dead set on ugliness.
I am losing hope. Cant pay bills she has run up. kids do not know whats happening (in theory). Living in hell under same roof. Cant focus at work, cant eat. Losing faith...help.
Tired, Dumb question, but have you consulted with an attorney yourself? Ask around, get a real shark like she did. I'm betting locked down finances would be unlocked real fast.
What have you done?
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Have hired strong atty. Working on unlocking somewhat, but also he advised to be careful that in doing so, we do not give her ability to take/spend more (she has already pilfered funds).
Tried to open communications w her, but all progress reversed every time she talks to her atty.
File 10/30/09 me 42 her 40 married 94 B14, G12, B10
