My WAW and I have been separated for approx 2 mos. B4 that we were living together but in separate rooms for a few weeks and B4 that sharing the same bed but she was living on edge of the bed with her back to me every night, no physical contact for mos. She has been very angry to the point we couldnt talk to each other w/out arguing. We havent talked for approx. 3 weeks. All of a sudden after several mos of angry confrontations she texted me to see if I wanted her to drop off some food at the house that she made. I said thank you but I was all set. She ended up contacting my son and brought it over anyway but I didnt see her. Now we've e-mailed each other for a legitimate reason but we ended up saying we forgive each other for all we've done in the past. Then I ran into her at the grocery store later in the night as I was walking out and she gave me the tightest strongest hug and kiss on the cheek. She said I looked good and it was good to see me. She says she still wants a divorce. Then I got a text later in the evening from her saying it was good to see me and that I looked good and shes glad we've forgiven each other and she hopes to talk to me soon. I have been working on improving myself and basically ignoring her for months. Is this part of the process for her? For months it was anger and bile and now its niceness but still brings up divorce. Im gonna stay the course and not contact her and see what happens. We've been married just shy of 20 years and have had 4 years of issues including a short affair by me 4 yrs ago and at the very least an EA by her for the last 6 mos.
Im gonna stay the course and not contact her and see what happens. We've been married just shy of 20 years and have had 4 years of issues including a short affair by me 4 yrs ago and at the very least an EA by her for the last 6 mos.
Read the success stories. The only way to save the M is to let go of it and see if they miss you. It's way easier said than done. I've been separated six months but spent the first four trying little ways to convince her it was a mistake. The past two I've let go -- at least in my dealings with her, to my friends I'm still a mess -- in hopes that she'll find the grass isn't greener and then look back to me.
So if you are doing as well as you sound in this post, you're off to a great start.
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