Just wanted to let you know that things are still great with me and H. Oh, there are days when things still pop back in my head, but I put those thoughts away.
I think it has been almost 3 years since H has been home for good. My memories are a little foggy now but that is a good thing.
My H has proven over and over to me that he isn't going anywhere ever again. That too is in the back of my mind but I guess it will fade with time.
I remember when I first can to this site, I felt like there was no hope at all. I really didn't see anything to hang on to but I did. My gut told me to. It was so hard watching my family fall apart. My faith in God got very strong.
I really didn't know what the outcome was going to be. I did all the wrong things at first like many of you all did. I took so long to detach from my H, but when I did it was when I finally found some peace and left it in Gods hands.
I sat back and watched everything unfold. I watched my H come and go so many times but with each time I saw him changing. He would start confiding in me, trusting me again.
He thought he was going to loose me and that really scared him. So his journey back home started.
Look at me.....just going on and on!
Anyway for those of you that remember me and that are interested, things are just great!
I hope and pray that your sitches turn out the way you want them. You all are in my prayers!
Just wanted to let you know that things are still grat with me and H. Oh, there are days when things still pop back in my head, but I put those thoughts away.
I think it has been almost 3 years since H has been home for good. My memories are a little foggy now but that is a good thing.
My H has proven over and over to me that he isn't going anywhere ever again. That too is in the back of my mind but I guess it will fade with time.
Ditto.
...just not with your H...my W...if it was ditto regarding your H that would be a whole different set of problems.
Last edited by Jack_Three_Beans; 11/05/0907:02 PM.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Thanks very much fo the update. I have read your threads and received much wisdom and hope from them. I really need that right now. Thanks for sharing your journey and update.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I admire you so much...along with Snodderly, Virtualy Handsome, and many others...
You have picked me up when I needed it...
I hope I can detach and feel true peace...I like you at the moment have no hope....H has totally left us behind...but I think through it all I am handling it very well....
Miss talking to you....MAH!!
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
You will find your peace. I promise, it take time and each person is different. Hang in there, you are doing well!!!
Prayers out to those on Ft. Hood! I live right besides it andmy son works in the OR at Ft. Hood. My poor GD is on locked down at her school because of this horrible mess.