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#1868249 11/05/09 01:10 PM
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I have been doing all of the things that I should be such as no crying, begging, following around husband, not talking about the future, not saying I love you, just asking how his day was and not going into in depth conversations etc... And all of it is truthful change on my part not because I am doing it to just get him back.
So my question is he has been avoiding me as well. Here and there I see things like the other day he asked me if I was just going to go to bed or stay up with him because he said he hadn't seen me all weekend. But then the next day he is really short will all his replies back to me, which are just how was your day etc...nothing more then that.

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Yes. You both are processing what is currently happening in your life. Keep this up. Space to process. When in doubt take a walk around the block.

Have you stopped contacting OW ?
How are you dealing with your depression ?

I guess you can add those answers to your proper thread.

Take care of yourself today.

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Yes I have stopped contacting her because I realized that I don't want to be her, I want to be me and that is the best feeling in the world!!!! I am Catholic and just within the last couple of weeks I have really found God and that has helped me so much with all of this knowing that no matter what I am going to be more then ok.
My depression is gone...I am happy all the time with exceptions of course:) I just wanted to know from someone else that this is normal, because sometimes I feel like he is withdrawing more because I am acting like my life will go on no matter what happens in our marriage.

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Be careful on that thought that your depression is gone. If you need to cry please do so. Do not hold back. Grieving the loss of a relationship has many stages. You can share this with yourself or a good trusted friend and us. Do not hid from it.

But keep up the happy all the time with exceptions of course:)

Your doing well.


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Well actually I was put on a different medication about a month ago and it has worked wonders for my depression. I didn't mean that I never cry or get upset, I just don't let things bother me or stress out about them like I use too. I am not really grieving the loss because he is still here and hasn't left yet nor does he say he is going too. I actually don't even know if sharing with a good friend is a good thing because there are always 2 sides of a story so sometimes you get a negative feedback and go back to the relationship negatively.


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