I got served last night with D papers. I was a little surprised by the timing. I guess i thought it would happen after the holidays. If any thing these last few months have shown me her true colors. I still hurt me and I think deep down I dont want to lose her but Ive got to continue to detach and move forward with my life without her. I will be speaking with an attorney later today. Ive been going out with friends staying busy and working out everyday. i spend as much time possible with my kids and hope to get shared custody. She thinks shes entiltled to making the visitation her desicion only. I still wonder what happened and why? I wonder if she even knows the reason for filing for d. We have really only talked about the kids these last couple of months and there has been no talk about r or m. Any comments from DB's Coaches?? What should next step be just smile and move forward.
Me 39 W 33 Married 7yrs Together 10 2 children 3 and 1 Says"She's moving on with her life"
Had to send email to w in regards to children and visitation issues.
Im trying to get as much time with them as I can. I have them every Tues overnight evry other THur overnight and evry other weekend Fri-MOn...
Ive been trying to get an extra day because there is a 7 day period when I only get to see them once.
W wont agree says she has been fair enough. I suggested we will probably need to get a third party involved( mediator ) to help us come up with a compromise.
Why do women always think that its there choice and there my kids. She says there only 3 and 1 and they need there mother.
While they need me to. I tried to compromise. Am i wrong??
Get a lawyer and get a joint custody agreement drafted, tell your wife its in the works, if you want to have joint custody of your children, you have to be willing to fight for it, sitting back and doing nothing will guarantee you that you will just sit back and get nothing.
Of course I want joint custody. Right now the way it is about 60/40 and ive been asking to get more time. She says that shes been fair and she not giving it. I have hired a Lawyer and ill fight to get joint 50/50 of my kids but in Ca it doesnt always work that way. We have to go to mediation first to see if we can come to an agreement. Its so amazing that she always blasting woman that didnt give the father's 50/50 but at this point she is not willing to do.
Me 39 W 33 Married 7yrs Together 10 2 children 3 and 1 Says"She's moving on with her life"
After being served with d papers 3 days before Christmas I feel like its time for me to move on more than ever. Ive been deatching hanging w friends and family spending as much time with my kids and working out a lot. Even though it will be 3 months on Jan 3 that she left I feel like the day I got those papers something changed inside of me. I know that I need to refocus and continue to grow. I hope evryone had a great Holiday and lets hope and pray that 2010 brings us all more joy and happiness.
Me 39 W 33 Married 7yrs Together 10 2 children 3 and 1 Says"She's moving on with her life"
