Save my marriage to w she is moving on

[ugetvince]

What if im really not comfortable with her being there...She is the one that Waw...She I still let her enjoy all the things she left behind

[TrentC]

What if im really not comfortable with her being there...She is the one that Waw...She I still let her enjoy all the things she left behind

If you don't want her there, don't invite her.

I'm just saying that if you do invite her, be polite, give her the necessary info but don't press her for a reply.

[ugetvince]

Good ...We havent had any real contact except in regards to the kids and I think im just going to leave it like that. What do you think about dating? She I call that other woman or bad idea at this point?

[TrentC]

Good ...We havent had any real contact except in regards to the kids and I think im just going to leave it like that. What do you think about dating? She I call that other woman or bad idea at this point?

That's a hot subject around here, and people have all sorts of opinions about dating while still married.

I think if you're up-front with the other person about your relationship you'll probably be okay, especially if the date doesn't have any romantic connotations. You should enjoy time with other people, especially members of the opposite sex; it'll help build your confidence.

[ugetvince]

Its not that its a big priority of mine..but what im I waiting for...I dont know if she is and she giving me no signs to think that things will change.
I think part of detaching and moving on..Its all part of the process..
Ill keep you posted

[ugetvince]

Kinda upset right now looking for some insight. Since the day WAw left she has tried to dictate to me when i see my babies. There has been know formal paperwork filed but weve agreed to certain things but not to others.
Tonight I texted her to see if I could see them for a couplw of hours or maybe for the whole night. Never got a rsponse. Later i called to say goodnight to my s3 and grandma answered.
I asked to speak with w and she said she is out for night..I dont even care where she is but if she is not going to be home on nights when she has them I think ive a right to have the option of getting my babies. Any thoughts??

[Lll54]

I agree. If she had plans to go out and it was her days with the kids and she made plans to leave them with grandma, then no big deal. But if you actually asked for them, then i see it differently. I've had a few of those nights too, where H went out and I know SIL watched them. As far as I'm concerned if I'm home anyways, why can't I have them? I haven't really discussed this yet with my H, but sometimes I think that maybe its good to not be pulling and pushing them back and forth. They need a little bit of stability. So I've left it for now and just used my time to work on me and take a breath and realize I will see them soon.

[ugetvince]

Had to send email to w in regards to children and visitation issues.

Im trying to get as much time with them as I can. I have them every Tues overnight evry other THur overnight and evry other weekend Fri-MOn...

Ive been trying to get an extra day because there is a 7 day period when I only get to see them once.

W wont agree says she has been fair enough. I suggested we will probably need to get a third party involved( mediator ) to help us come up with a compromise.

Why do women always think that its there choice and there my kids. She says there only 3 and 1 and they need there mother.

While they need me to. I tried to compromise. Am i wrong??

[ugetvince]

Please stop saying it was my choice to put the kids in this situation. I had no choice...I gave you so many chances Vince and if we really meant so much to you, your actions would have proven it!

This was w last line to me in her email..Its all me and im all to blame.

I know I can only work on me and im trying but im at a loss for all the anger.

[ugetvince]

Any thoughts or input? I need some advice??