My WAW and I have been separated for a month now. Its been hard but I have been doing reasonably well up until a few days ago when she sent me the following text. "I truly hope you have a happy birthday" For whatever reason that heas sent me into a tailspin to where I cannot stop thinking about her. We hadn't talked, texted or seen one another in a month and Ive been going to the gym, counseling and keeping busy. Is this normal to have this rush of emotions come flooding back out of the blue just when youve convinced yourself you just might be moving on pretty well? Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.
Welcome to the boards. I'm sorry you find yourself here, but this is a good place to be.
First question -- have you read either Divorce Busting or The Divorce Remedy? If not, I'd find a copy of either book and start reading. (I recommend TDR first, personally.)
Originally Posted By: Hlpmeplz
Is this normal to have this rush of emotions come flooding back out of the blue just when youve convinced yourself you just might be moving on pretty well?
Yes, it is normal. You might want to look at an discussion thread about detachment here, and Livestrong.com has a good article about detachment here.
Other board veterans will probably post some advice later. You might want to summarize your situation to date.
* How old are you and your wife? * How long have you been married? * Do you have any kids? How old are they? * When did she "drop the bomb" on you? What has happened since then?
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Trent, I just turned 47 as is she. We've been marries 19.5 years. We have two grown up kids (hers from previous marriage that I raised). Yes Ive been reading DB but just getting into it. She started acting real weird about 6 mos. ago. This coincides I have found out with at the very least an EA with someone older than her ( by about 8 or so years). She started with just stopping doing anything together then the ILYBNILWY stuff and then about 2 mos ago dropped the bomb. She started living upstairs but that was too hard for me so I asked her to leave. She filed papers and moved out. We havent had any contact since until this past thursday with the message. It was a bad weekend for me. Like I say I was doing fine until the birthday message and it all came rushing back. I look forward to any more info or advice.
