Way to go at the party! I feel for you and know it is difficult to remain steadfast in the DB'n mode. Hang in there and enjoy your time with your kids. They are definately precious and a gift. WAH doesn't realize what he is missing and caught up in his own world. Totally inappropriate X tells you to tell S3 that dad is moved out now. Wow pretty insensitive.
Had a good day. Planned to take S3 skating today. FIL called and wanted to come so he did. H showed up to watch for a bit. Quick conversation about S3. I was totally acting happy and bubbly even though I wanted nothing more than for him to be skating with us as a family. But I didnt show it. I could tell he was bothered about how happy I was. Oh well. My sis was there and she said when he left he had a look of rejection on his face. I felt good. He hasnt called tonight. So just going to start off the new week as it is.
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
btw, the next time he says something like he did about S3 (which I agree, was horrible!), try this one, which was one of my faves: Shake your head, stare at him incredulously, and just say -- very clearly -- "Unbelievable."And walk away.Puppy
That's Puppy fer ya: always spot on. Always succinct.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Had a good day. Planned to take S3 skating today. FIL called and wanted to come so he did. H showed up to watch for a bit. Quick conversation about S3. I was totally acting happy and bubbly even though I wanted nothing more than for him to be skating with us as a family. But I didnt show it. I could tell he was bothered about how happy I was. Oh well. My sis was there and she said when he left he had a look of rejection on his face. I felt good. He hasnt called tonight. So just going to start off the new week as it is.
What am I missing? Why FIL all rejected and long in the face?
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Sorry, must not have made sense. FIL came and skated, but H showed up too, just for a few minutes to watch. He is the one that left with the rejected look on his face. Sorry bout the confusion.
I feel like H may be going through a rough time right now, with the feeling of disrespect from his co-workers, and seeing me so happy. My sis also feels this way, after seeing him yesterday. He just doesn't look happy. I've been doing really good lately. Of course it bothered me that he didn't try to get a hold of me last night because the day before he called 4 times! Its hard to go from being in control and not answering 4 phone calls to not being in control and not having to NOT answer 4 phone calls cause he isn't calling. It sucks. But hey, he really didn't have a reason to call anyways, so I'm not gonna get too bummed out. I've been dealing with his hot and cold attitude for weeks. Its nothing new. Off to see MC in a few minutes. Need to work on me this session, and being okay with just being "ME", cause the loneliness is getting to me these days. Hopefully I walk out with some insight.
I forgot to mention that H was quite rude to my sister yesterday at the rink. She said she was being overly nice and he didn't give her the time of day. I don't know what's up with his moods. The guy can't handle his emotions. I wish he would see a C. If I ever treated his family like that, well lookout.
Don't know my next move, just get through the day right now.
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
I have the kids until wed. morning. So I hope to go in on Wed. afternoon. I will just go to a walk in clinic, hope they can help me. I don't like my doctor, he's quite horrible, in the process of looking for a new one.
Thanks for the concern,
Britt
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
Brit, you did a better job at your party than I did at mine!! It didn't go horribly, but it didn't go as I had planned either.
I hope you can continue to be strong.
Me: 33 / H: 36 M: 10y / T: 14y 3 kids BD: 2/22/14 Live in separation 3/8/14 H consult lawyer, says filing asap 4/24/14 H moved out 4/25/14 2nd time around. 1st separation 4y ago lasted a month
I have the kids until wed. morning. So I hope to go in on Wed. afternoon. I will just go to a walk in clinic, hope they can help me. I don't like my doctor, he's quite horrible, in the process of looking for a new one.
Thanks for the concern,
Britt
Oh. I thought you were specifically having to wait until this week b/c your doctor was out of town last week. Maybe I misunderstood.
Brit, do you have health insurance? If you do a walk in clinic would not be the appropriate place to go to begin a regime of medication and counseling. A walk in clinic is designed to treat immediate problems that have a quick fix (ex: cold, ear infection, stitches).
Ask your pediatrician or GYN for a rec. for a psych./counselor and new family dr. Meds are not magic pills and they are fine to take *if* you follow the program. Meds and counseling need to go hand in hand. The meds are designed to reduce the physical symptoms of stress/anxiety so you can really focus on the counseling side of things.
Do not hold off on this or make excuses. It's a matter of making a few simple phone calls and once you do find the psych/counselor they usually will get you in quickly due to the nature of the circumstance. No matter what medication they prescribe chances are it will take 6-8 weeks to reach a therapeutic level so the sooner you start the better.
I don't know where you live but I have four major hospitals in my neighborhood within a 10 block radius of each other - aside from one of them they all have mental health clinics. So if a clinic is what you choose find a mental health one.
