Pretty much every guy I've read that asks that question is still in the trying to convince, guilt or reason their wife back into the relationship phase. None of those will work. Until you are DB'ing and getting strong for YOU, you are missing the point.
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted
It could and probably would seriously backfire on you. I would not show her.
K4D
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Pretty much every guy I've read that asks that question is still in the trying to convince, guilt, reason
...fix, rescue, help her see, understand, think, lift the fog, advise, get her hormones checked, get her to talk to her priest/pastor, talk to my/her Mom/BF or go to IC....
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their wife back into the relationship phase.
It's all script.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Yep - I have been there too. At one time I would have thought it was a good idea for her to read some of the stuff on this forum and in the books I have read. I spent many months trying to get her to 'wake up' and 'see the light' but it just doesn't work. They don't want to believe you or anyone else who is saying something that doesn't support their intended path.
The stuff she knew about (the books) just pissed her off and she would get real sarcastic: "Why don't you just go read one of your BOOKS and figure it out..." The last thing she needs is more ammunition to be irritated at the LBS.
Looking back I now know I should have gone completely stealth with all of the help I was getting, whether it was from books, this forum, etc.
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
