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[Bobby]

Hi everyone. I was here about 3 yrs. ago under the MC section.
Things got better but W never returned to a loving relationship.
W has been spending as much time away from me as possible for a few weeks so I said she needs to talk to me. She said she didn't want to because she would only hurt me.
Well she says she loves me and I am a sweetheart but doesn't feel like we have much of a marriage.
Our relationship has been on my mind , not getting a wholehearted hug for quite some time and having to ask for any type of sex like I was a kid asking for candy.
W has a business in our house that she seems willing to close to move on. I suggested counselling but am thinking I might let her make the decision.As she always says I tell her how she should feel.
I feel like at this time in my life I would like a close relationship. Somebody that's glad to see you home from work, and make you feel you are the most important person in their life. But if I push her, there's no garuantee I'll find that "other person" anyway.
The thought of being alone after 26 yrs. is scary.
Thoughts, and opinions? (It may be a short time til I get back to post) Thanks
Me-48 W-43


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[Bobby]

W also said she feels like we are just friends. Is that a normal feeling after that many years? I don't think you would have the excitement of a new relationship after that many years.

Would anyone like to comment? This site kept me sane my first time here.

[Lotus]

In my opinion if she feels like you are friends, that's pretty good. After 26 years of marriage, I felt like enemies with my husband. There are a lot of women who choose to move into a sexless "friend" stage in their 40's and 50's. I think you will find several men on this site going through the same thing. It seems very difficult to break.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I said she needs to talk to me. She said she didn't want to because she would only hurt me.
Well she says she loves me and I am a sweetheart but doesn't feel like we have much of a marriage.

Bobby,

Was there any infidelity involved 3 years ago? This sure sounds like "OM" to me.

Puppy

[Bobby]

I am pretty sure there isn't "OM". Unless it's internet based.

thanks for your thoughts and ideas.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

What do you base that on?

What were the issues 3 years ago?

[Bobby]

I base that on her being where she says she is and who she says she's with.

[Bobby]

W was gone all day today. Told me where she was going with a girlfriend. Then her sister got to our house one minute after she got home. Wife seemed pretty cold to me.

I thought I would be strong this time around , thinking this would be best. Rather than being at the bottom of her list.