Well, she moved out on Monday. After some back and forth, we did agree before she walked out on what we both think is a fair custody arrangement, at least for now. I know at some point, (sooner than later), she's going to angle for more overnights and a closer to 50/50 arrangement. However, we did come up with an agreement, and just before she left, she said she thought we could draw up papers to that effect without getting a lawyer involved. At the last minute, she said she didn't think we needed to sign anything.
Any thoughts???
So far, we've been civil with each other. And so far, the arrangement is working. Do I draw up papers and give them to her to sign? Do I not press the issue and see what happens? Form a Divorce Busting standpoint, because my primary goal is to save my marriage, is it a good idea to put the cold hard facts in front of her, or play it cool and see what happens? I've tried my best not to be cold with her this week. We're seeing each other at my son's soccer game tomorrow, and she wants all of us to have dinner together tomorrow. Any advice? Press the issue, or play it cool???
I have no signed custody agreement in place and it is working fine. Of course we are only a couple of weeks into the separation, but I don't anticipate any problems at this point. I intend to continue on like that UNLESS problems do start and then I will go the route of getting something in writing. So my advice is if you think there's a reasonable chance she is going to play fair then leave it informal. If you start getting conflicts then get something in writing.
