She's planning on taking her hope chest? WHAT THE F#@$???
If there was one thing in the entire house I'd think she'd want to leave it would be the wedding pictures and her hope chest! I hand made it for her when we got engaged. It's a replica of a steemer trunk her parents had that had rotted out. I faithfully reproduced it, lined it with satin and cedar, carved hearts in the handles of the inset drawer, and used the original hardware from the first trunk to finish off hers. I worked all night with pneumonia on Christmas Eve so it would be ready for her Christmas morning 2 months after we got engaged. I poured my heart into that, and it really was a symbol of our love and hope for our future.
So she's taking her clothes, her cosmetics and personal stuff, a few pictures of her family and our son, AND THE BIGGEST PHYSICAL REPRESENTATION OF OUR MARRIED LIVES TOGETHER!!! Go figure! (I'm 99% sure the wedding potos are in there too!) Interesting to see what happens when she finds them.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I did control my reaction when she told me, which was I didn't react at all. I fully expected her to leave it, since she is moving into a furnished place and doesn't need any furniture at all. I guess that's why it's so surprising. I assumed that was probably the one thing in the house that would be too much of a reminder of our love and marriage. I guess I'm releived in a way that it still means enough to her to be the one thing she wants to take with her, but damn, I wasn't expeting it! It's just screwy!
maybe she is going to hawk it for money for crack.
like coach said, doesnt matter.
whats does it matter what she does right now?
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I assumed that was probably the one thing in the house that would be too much of a reminder of our love and marriage. I guess I'm releived in a way that it still means enough to her to be the one thing she wants to take with her,
thats what you want it to mean to her. might have a completely different meaning to her with the state of your relationship.
Maybe I'm optimistic (don't know your full sitch) but I think it's a sign that deep down (way, way deep down?) she has still that little flame for you. Keep on your positive changes! Nobody is perfect...if you made a few slips then forgive yourself and get back to being the guy you want to be who is growing from this heartache.
I don't think that was meant as a mean backhanded slap. The point is: Whatever meaning you have invested in the chest, she may not. You can't project your feelings onto her.
I would have worded it differently, but I don't think McQueen was being malicious.
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Go figure! (I'm 99% sure the wedding potos are in there too!) Interesting to see what happens when she finds them. 
