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Having a bad day.....
I wont see my boys till Sunday - more than 48 hrs. My shift pattern is the problem

I just can not GAL today at all.
Cant get motivated..

I am going to put the money back to pay the mortgage and not start going into arrears.
I do not want the confrontation with my WAW, and would only cause distrust and anger.
This would damage and - a big if- any progress I have made in myself and my WAW.
If in the future she decides she wants a D, then I will not pay the mortgage to help finance my new home for me and the boys. I will save the confrontation for when it is needed.

Regards, Gyn




Cause all of the stars,
Have faded away,
Just try not to worry,
You'll see them someday.
Take what you need,
And be on your way and,
Stop crying your heart out.
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Stay tough...this is a roller coaster - I know, trust me.


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Made it through the WAW, living happily together now. And I am much wiser for it!
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I am in the same place today Gyn... I am with ya....
odd that there is somehow comfort in knowing you are not alone in your pain... at least for me...

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This may sound odd, but when I am feeling down and/or worried about the future I think how things are or may be versus the how bad things are for other people.

As in...I am not - homeless, starving, in prison, disfigured, disabled, destitute, dying or a myriad of other things. And the more I work on me, the better person I become and I am the only person I know I will be around for the rest of my life.

Of course, I want to save my family, but what is the worst case scenario? Something that 50% of all married people go through. We all know divorced people who are leading healthy, happy lives.

All things in perspective.

Last edited by Indy36; 09/25/09 03:48 PM.

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Loving Marriage #2 with the perfect person.


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very true Indy... good perspective....

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Thanks to you all for your kind words - You certainly put a new slant on it Indy36




Cause all of the stars,
Have faded away,
Just try not to worry,
You'll see them someday.
Take what you need,
And be on your way and,
Stop crying your heart out.
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I had a horrible weekend last weekend and then started thinking about how FAR I'VE ALREADY COME in five months. That helped. Of course I don't know how far you are into the process.


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