Oxymoron to lovingly-detach?

[Day by Day]

I'm struggling with how to lovingly detach. I just feel like detaching is to stop feeling love. If I'm detached, I feel so distant and don't feel like I care. How can you be detached and still love from a distance?

I'm trying this and feel like a jerk. I feel like it's playing hard to get... but he doesn't want me anyway. So it feels stupid.

Can someone explain how to balance this?

Day by Day

[karen43]

Someone here a while back posted this link on detachment and I found it really helpful. Its: http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/

[Day by Day]

Thanks Karen, it is helpful. Just need to re-read that everyday until it sinks in and I understand it I guess.

:-)

[Entangled]

Thanks for posing the question Day by Day - I'm with you sister!

Thanks for posting the link Karen. I've printed it out and will be trying to absorb it.

Isn't there just a pill we can take?