This is all new to me so I really don't know where to start. My husband told me two months ago that he has met a younger woman. She is 21 and still in college. He has moved in with his parents and we have a 1 1/2 year old son. He has stopped telling me that he loves me and says part of him does not want to be married anymore. I really don't know what to do. I have bought the DR book and I am currently reading it. It has given me the hope that we can fix our marriage. I just don't know really how to get him to give up this other woman. I mean he still kisses me when he leaves. I am about to try the Last Resort Technique to see if it will work. If anyone has any advice I would surely appreciate it.
More on the situation: Two months ago my husband wrote me a letter saying that he had met someone. First it was innocent but the texting and phone calls kept on until there was more. My husband is a police officer so he met this girl actually by giving her a ticket. I have reason to believe that this girl is a lesbian but is playing with my husbands emotions. I have seen pictures of this girl with another one doing some pretty risqué things.
Back to the point. About two weeks ago I told him maybe he needed to move out for a little bit to get his mind straight to see if he missed me and our son. The first week was hard. The next week I got really jealous when he wasn't where he said he would be and really made him mad. So we went back a few steps. This last week I didn't really talk to him. The one thing that really bothers me is he doesn't even check on our son but maybe once a week. I don't know what to do. I am going to try to be strong and weather the storm because I feel in my heart that the real him will come back to me. We have been married almost 5 years but have been together for 11 years. We are high school sweethearts that had that kind of love people envied.
Up until that letter we have never fought. It was definitely like we were still in the honeymoon stage. We did everything together. He never really complained about anything. So I was totally hit hard with this news.
Sorry you're here, but there are great ppl that can help you thru this. I'm rather new at this too so can't really offer much in the way of advice. Im certain someone will be along that can. Just know that you're not alone, I felt that way and realized many ppl are going thru the same kinds of things we are. Thats some comfort. One thing that will help is focusing on your son and yourself instead of your situation. Easier some days than others.
