You said it! MLC=confusion. Golfgirl, when he sayd he misses you and loves you, he means it -- at the time. BUt the MLCers don't know which end is up and they go through so many emotions in the course of a day. So, it's a good sign that he feels that way. But that doesn't mean that he's thinking with a clear, rational head. He may still be messed up.
BND, I agree with what you said. Live your life. Don't shut the door shut on your marriage. Leave it ajar. But don't keep peeking through the crack to see if it is opening. Leave it ajar and face forward.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
Yesterday he said he wanted a divorce. Then he kept asking about our marriage. HUH?? What does he want? I will keep the door ajar because in my heart I believe we belong together. Now I need to be silent for awhile and let him think about things...he'll lose and amazing woman if he lets me go. Wait! If I decide I want to go....
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
GG, Your h honestly is a confused mess right now. One minute they want a divorce, the next minute they are talking about the relationship. You can't analyze anything that they say or do right now because they are operating on emotions...nothing more. Their emotions are running extremely high and rational thinking is out the window.
Sit quietly and patiently. You'll learn more by doing so and yes, information that you are seeking will fall into you lap quicker this way. Allow the man upstairs the time to work on your h. Give him the entire mess and keep the focus on you and your family. I know it's difficult, but you didn't break him, therefore, you can't fix him.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
