here is the key: "HE is feeling unhappy and his R is in trouble", he is putting a huge guilt trip on him because now that the craziness of the A is gone he's seen the damage he's caused and now wants to pin it on YOU!! this makes me so mad!! how in the hell where you supposed to react?? now that things are not going his way it turnes out it's all your fault because you reacted in a way he wans'at expecting? that is the biggest load of cr@p I've heard so far, do NOT believe it.
If he really wanted his M he would've fought for YOU as a woman and his wife, not because he is miserable and alone and wanted his old life back.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
That's so true. Reading that gives me a lot of strength in my path, thank you.
Funnily enough, he came round last night to drop off the children and he'd had a good couple of weeks with the g/f. He was quite happy with the divorce and didn't seem to mind. Clearly he is trying to manipulate me when things go wrong with her.
If I can remember these conversations with him and how differently he felt toward me depending on what was going on at home, it will be helpful.
Me:36 M:16 D final: 08/09 Ds:10&5 Ss:8&3 Bomb 3xPA 200 sexual encounters 15/06/08