Well, not a teaching or school job like I kind of wanted to get, but a medical disability examiner, approving or denying SS disability benefits to people. It's mostly requesting & reading medical records and a little bit of writing they said. I think it's a lot of work, they have quotas, and that's why they pay more. And to get a job with this economy and my 10-year layoff; I think it's pretty good. There is training they provide, lots to learn, and they say it takes 3 to 5 years to really know what you're doing. But the good news is it's learning medical & regulations stuff instead of computer stuff. Whew!
WOO HOO!!!!! That's awesome!!! Is it a government job then or through a third party that approves for the gov't? I've been trying to get a federal or state job for the last 2 years but no luck.
I am beyond excited for you Karen! What a wonderful new chapter you are writing.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I know its amazing I got a good job! Mish, it's a state job. I was one year short of being vested in state retirement, so if I can make it one year, I'll have my 8 years in or whatever it was. Not a lot of $$, but I guess every little bit helps.
My L emailed she talked to X's L about the recent developments. His lawyer said I did a "fine" job in the hearing too. Prob. a rave review coming from his L.
My L wants me to make concessions so we can try to reach an agreement with X's L so we don't have to have the judge decide. I had asked for X to receive 1.5 days a week with the kids, and he was asking for 3.5, so I did say I would agree to him having 2.5, but that's it. If he insists on 3.5 days, I'm sure the judge won't give me less than that and maybe less since it was apparent in the hearing I was always their primary parent until 3 months ago, so I would have nothing to lose by going to the judge. My dummies divorce book also says if something happens in future (like I lose my job) it's easier to modify a judge's order than an agreement.
I also told the L that I expect the full alimony I've gotten until Jan. 15, my first paycheck. Told her with our combined income of $123,000 next year (if I keep my job) makes no sense for me not to be able to pay my bills the next month. I also told her that I would hope to get some temp. alimony at least, not the $1 she mentioned. I think with all the extra expenses: daycare, gas, work clothes, health & dental insurance will be $150-$200 a month, etc. that I may have less money than I do now (without temp. alimony), but I know it will be good to have the insurance! The way it worked out, I'm going to not have any gap, go straight from his insurance to mine, so that's a good thing.
X is calling every day now, to tell me stuff about the kids. His communication skills have mysteriously improved now that I've got a job. He's so happy! Plus, I told him one of the reasons I asked for him to have the 1.5 days, is his poor communications skills, so he's prob. trying to impress me so I'll do an agreement with him.
It's just ridiculous he goes from nasty to nice when he gets his way in everything. So good not to have to deal with that. I need to try to go nc more, but the judge at the hearing, didn't like my dealing with email (yeah, he's abusive and nasty so I don't think I have the average situation), and said we should be talking to each other.
Oh, I forgot X's "defense" to his nastiness, was his L said it was a difficult time with divorce, I said I've always been polite and nice to him though, (should have brought up it started before the D too).
Hope everybody in the midwest is ok! I've read it's pretty bad up there!
Oh, Kat I talked to the personnel woman yesterday who was telling me all kinds of insider info. Really nice. She said they have 2 to 3 months of training.
I wouldn't budge on the alimony because you deserve it. What if the State cuts back? You need to protect yourself and your L should be helping you do that not trying to get you to bargain it away.
Time with the kids is going to be a premium now regardless. Stick to your guns 1 day a week and every other weekend. The kids are going to need more scheduled time than ever now that you are working.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Plus, I told him one of the reasons I asked for him to have the 1.5 days, is his poor communications skills, so he's prob. trying to impress me so I'll do an agreement with him.