Maybe I should have just accepted it and let go alot sooner, I doubt it would have changed the final outcome and I could have spared myself so much misery along the way. That realisation makes me want to tell the Newcomers that, but I dont bother to post, as you cant tell anyone and like them, I wouldnt have listened. Ali i agree 100%...this is also why i do not post to newcomers. Hope the sun is out today in Athens.
I want to start a thread in newcomers and just TELL everybody that #1 there is probably (99%) another person involved #2 The minute they start feeling good about themselves their chances for reconcil rise up to 1000% of what it was previously and #3 realise that you wont MAKE anyone come back to you by making sure they know you are waiting... On the conrtary...
Do it K! You have a wonderful way with words and an optimistic but realistic outlook! I think you could really help them. I don't post to them simply because I can't even help myself, let alone those that are in complete devastation. You CAN!!!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Interesting thoughts Kalni, Im still in newcomers although I have now been separated not through choice for six weeks.. Even though I will say I have braced myself ready to hear there is someone else at present their is no proof of one, although I do suspect an EA via the internet. I totally agree with you on the other two fronts.. I wasted two and half months doing the needy and dont leave me drama's before I found DB and I can honestly say apart from the moment when I told him he needed to go and experience life on his own, it was a complete waste of time and energy, I might as well as shoved him out the door myself! So now Im DB as best I can, he rarely phones me once a week at most and yes I miss him, thats not surprising seeing in twenty nine years we barely spent any time apart, yet in the last eight years I apparently didnt know him! Well when all else fails try the complete opposite, that is me now, he moved into his flat today and apart from the area he is in I havent a clue where he is, and no Im not panicking.. Its his own doing and today I even had a giggle at it going wrong for him on the first day.. He may never come back but hes not going to drag me down and send me loopy as well, some days Im strong others not so! But please folks your advice is needed in newcomers, we need to see that although the light might not look like we want it to be, it is still at the end of the tunnel! Sorry to butt into this thread I hope you dont mind!
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