My Intro: Thanks for Reading!

[RedSoxFan]

Thanks FIB. I get that the control is my number one issue to work on. Focused 100% on that.

BTW. I went back to the site again and cannot find any place to sign up for that newsletter....lots of mentions of it but no signup.

[faithisbelieving]

It's the big blue box at the very top of the page. It's definitely worth reading. Although many women here may not like the way it looks on the outside, I highly recommend reading his pdf and also reading the other pdf at womensinfidelitydotcom. The former is promarriage and tells you how to keep the excitement in your M and how to avoid becoming boring. The latter explains, in a small subset of women, why and how cheating occurs and why they then paint us with a much darker brush.

IMO, anything that gives you a better insight and better set of tools...is worth reading.

FIB

[RedSoxFan]

Hi Everyone,

Welcome your feedback:

Dear W,

I've done so much work on myself this past year. Obviously it is brutally painful that I chose to leave and it is heartbreaking that I can't change that. I haven't been able to shake my love for you and desire to have our family together.

I’m not going to pretend or play games. It sucks that you’re with another man. When I tell you I'm not judging, it is because I'm trying not to. I don't feel entitled to. But it is so hard. And sometimes, I fall short when I think about us and who we were together and who we could be. I struggle with what we are losing.

I know that this doesn't feel fair and that you feel I'm putting pressure on you. If there was some manageable way for me to sit tight and be your friend and see how things evolve, I would. But I'm a man and I want my wife with me and my family together. The best and only way I can make amends is to love you, make you the priority in my life and work my ass off at a providing a wonderful life for you and our girls.

The bottom line for me is that I can't fake it. I can't pretend I don't have an opinion about you being with someone else, I can't be friends knowing that you're intimate with him. What I can do is tell you straight up, I have busted my ass to get to this place of honesty and clarity and I will bust my ass to deliver for you and us.

I've reached a point where I need to know if there is anything you are willing to do to explore healing the hurt between us and if there is any path toward a future together. If not, I have to focus all of my energy on moving forward on my own and to begin that process our marriage needs to end. I’d like to agree that we’ll pick up the paperwork and begin the dissolution process this week in.

RSF

[RedSoxFan]

It's the big blue box at the very top of the page.

Got it. The box is empty when using Firefox...only works with internet explorer!!

[faithisbelieving]

Please don't send that email. FIB

[K4D]

Don't send it unless you really are ready to start the dissolution because that is what will happen. And right now if she is with OM, she won't care what changes you have made. She probably won't even want to hear it.

2 options,

Remain patient and keep working on yourself and let this A with OM run its course

or (and I am always against this one)

Proceed with the dissolution.

Kevin

[faithisbelieving]

Agree. Any email of THAT caliber will either end up in the trash, recycle bin or deleted.

You basically begged, pleaded, got on your knees with "oh whoa is me to another man" and then said it's my way or the highway.

Either detach, move on with your life and improve.....or file.

FIB

[RedSoxFan]

OK, didn't send.

[aliveandkicking]

Either detach, move on with your life and improve.....or file.

Words to live by and concise at that.

[faithisbelieving]

Update? FIB