Disconnecting more each day

[SO-LOST]

It's been well over three years since my Wife dropped the bomb on me, a looooong three years I might add. I have been trying my best to follow the advise of others but it seems that no matter what I do or how I act, she seems to slip away farther and farther. Recently we have had discussions about the whole event when she dropped the bomb on me. What's so weird to me is that she has a totally different memory of what was said. It was the most devistating day of my life, a day I will never forget. She told me she cared about but just really did not feel close to me anymore. She told me that she it was not anything I had done but that I "just don't do it for her anymore" Years have past now and she has become so cold towards me.
She tells me all the time she is going to leave but never does. She says now that she did not say any of those things and that she hoping I would woo her into feeling better about me. This whole dissconnect thing is tearing my family to pieces. Is it possible to ever get back to a normal life?

[cpfullofhope]

It sounds like you need to focus on you and remind her what a great catch you were to start with. Get your own things going and start enjoying your life without her and I would bet she will be interested in the new you. And, if not, then at least you will be moving toward a happier life.

[peacetoday]

so
It sounds like your W is still living there with you
They say chances are better for R if spouse stays home
she wants you to woo her
Im sure you thought of this but maybe M cnseling would help if she is the least bit interested in working on things
if she is not, I read that friendship is a start
to work on that
I dont think there is an easy answer here
You say you tried many things and nothing has worked
If it is MLC, it is long
so I guess as long as you have a desire to R M
keep going for now
ultinatuns dont seem to work for MLCers
I have read that even once the was seems a little interested in working on M, it still seems to take tons of time
good luck
peace

[forward]

Oh, I so do think that GAL makes you more interesting! When you start to feel better about yourself, you can start flirting. It is fun.