questions about my WAW

[billclay18]

I know the answers, just looking for confirmation...or other points of view:

After 2 months, W finally leaves our bed…2 weeks before she moves out. Why now?

W adamant about wanting D from day one, but after 2 months, has done nothing other than print out generic “sample” copies of paperwork which she gave me 5 weeks ago to look at. Copies have “sample” superimposed all over them so they aren’t even viable. Why not just file or at least get viable copies, fill them out and give them to me?

W finds apartment and was to move out 8/1, but decides she wants 2nd floor apartment rather than 3rd floor apartment, which delays move until 8/29. Why wouldn’t she want to be out ASAP?

[Coach]

I know the answers, just looking for confirmation...or other points of view:

After 2 months, W finally leaves our bed…2 weeks before she moves out. Why now?

W adamant about wanting D from day one, but after 2 months, has done nothing other than print out generic “sample” copies of paperwork which she gave me 5 weeks ago to look at. Copies have “sample” superimposed all over them so they aren’t even viable. Why not just file or at least get viable copies, fill them out and give them to me?

W finds apartment and was to move out 8/1, but decides she wants 2nd floor apartment rather than 3rd floor apartment, which delays move until 8/29. Why wouldn’t she want to be out ASAP?

Great concept I learned about communicating. If you want information go to the source and ask. Logic and emotion don't operate on the same wavelengths. Your wife is confused, upset, hurt, scared, lonely, and lost about her realtionship with you. Put the focus on you. What can you do that will help you reach your goals?

Cheers

[billclay18]

I guess your telling me don't worry about "why"...do what I have to do for me. Maybe I don't know the answers...just trying to decipher the methodology to the madness.

[billclay18]

Not that this applies...but tomorrow is our 4th wedding anniversary...guess a card is out of the question, huh? Kidding...just kidding!!! How will I "celebrate"??? Watching football of course!

[billclay18]

looking for any input...

[givingitmyall]

I have seen a lot of suggestions of buying a card with nothing in it (you fill it in) v. buying cards that say something understated but which acknowledges the day (you don't write in it).

Point is, you want to acknowledge the day, but not make her uncormfortable or make you look like you are pursuing (I know you aren;t).

[billclay18]

Something to consider.

[billclay18]

Decided not to mention anniversary. I suspect neither will she.

Still looking for feedback on some of my earler questions as well as a couple more:

W comes home from work the other day and proceeds to tell me the apartment manager called her to tell her the apartment she's moving into on 8/29 fell thru. Manager called back to tell her another apartment opened up and 8/29 date is still good, but W wants to look at it first. What's the point of her telling me this? She's still leaving as planned on the 29th...why the need to mention this to me when nothing changed?

Also, she went shopping yesteday for things for her apartment and told me how difficult it was to finds things that match. Once again...why talk to me about this? Just venting her frustration to me as a W normally would with a H? Just needs someone to talk to?

[billclay18]

Your wife is confused, upset, hurt, scared, lonely, and lost about her realtionship with you.

Wish I could see it that way...seems quite confident and sure of herself.