Really need some help on this one. WAW and I are getting along better, slowly closing the gap. One problem, I just spend 20 minutes talking with D11 after W dropped kids back home. D is very upset (in tears) with the way her mother is treating her. Says she doesn't want to go back to moms. I told D she really needs to work on the R with her mom and tell her how she feels. Maybe write a letter. I'd like to talk to W about the issue but my gut is telling me she wouldn't listen and we would be back at square 0. W really has some issues to work through when it comes the kidos. I really want W and Kids to have a good R regardless of what happens to the M.
Anyone run into something similar? Is my only option to lead by example?
My life seems to be like the movie Spanglish (sp?)except I'm not as bad of an actor
_________________________ Me-41 W-39 M-15 yrs T-17 yrs D-12 S-9 S-8 B 5/08 S 1/09
Good luck, bart. My W has a hard time with our boys sometimes. She has a problem with stress in general, so when they do what 6 and 4 year olds do sometimes it gets to her and she flies off the handle. I know it isn't the same with your w and d, but I want to nip it in the bud before it gets to that point. Anyway, I hope everything turns out OK for everyone involved.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
W at my house now. Told D I though she was a great person, told W she was a great mother (gagging on those words) and you two need to talk. W blew it off and took the opportunity to tell D what she was doing wrong. I don't think she understands the damage she is doing here. May not matter as it sounds like W wants to join AF Reserves. Calculate that as 8 months OCS. 4 months active deployment per year. Having a hard time looking at her today. Guess I need to change my parenting plan to full custody.
_________________________ Me-41 W-39 M-15 yrs T-17 yrs D-12 S-9 S-8 B 5/08 S 1/09
