That part I am always working on. I realized it was a mistake to go back to someone I didn't love just bc I am pregnant. It will only make me, him, and eventually the child unhappy. I want to be with him bc I know that's what makes me happy.
One of the most important things in life I've learned is that nobody makes you happy if you aren't happy with yourself.
Get there first.
I wasn't implying that he is the sole reason for my happiness. What I was saying is that out of the two people he is the one I'm happy to be with.
I've read all of your posts. At first glance your story is very...complicated.
You have a web of mistrust here. YOu had reasons not to trust your BF and your husband has lots of reasons not to trust you. You also don't say much about the nature of your relationships.
Of course everything is possible. It's possible to get him back, it's possible to lose him.
The theory in Divorce Busting/Divorce Remedy is that relationships are created on PATTERNS OF BEHAVIOR. Change your behavior, and it will change the nature of your relationship.
So do that. Be consistent.
But Mindy, you're pregnant. Right now it is in your best interest just to take really good care of yourself, get to know yourself, what you need and want really well. Get to know your husband really well, if you can. Take it gentle and slow.
It will all be ok.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
DCBHM, very good thought! I also like your signature!!
Mindy.. it really seems like you are in need of working on you and letting the rest fall into place. Like KARA says... Let Go Let GOD..
M - 45 1st marriage H - 45 2nd M -T - 14 yrs M - 13 yrs S - due to job location since 1/08 B - 7/6/2009 EA revealed -9/3/2009 began 6/09 E/A end 9/09 piercing: since 10/09 long distance
oops I posted on page 1 and didnt see that pg 2 was in effect sgctxok has some very good advise.. I am new here but really love what I am seeing.. you are all so insightful!
M - 45 1st marriage H - 45 2nd M -T - 14 yrs M - 13 yrs S - due to job location since 1/08 B - 7/6/2009 EA revealed -9/3/2009 began 6/09 E/A end 9/09 piercing: since 10/09 long distance
I have spent the past 6 months working on myself. That's why I'm ready to try to work on my marriage. As far as my pregnancy goes, I am completely healthy, so there really anything more I can do in that area.
Mindy, that medication you took sounds scary. Was it just for depression? Have you heard of it causing that effect on anybody else?
Are you staying with some family now? You need to be in a stable place and try to stay out of the drama while you are pregnant. After the baby comes, then you can deal more with the MR.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I have spent the past 6 months working on myself. That's why I'm ready to try to work on my marriage. As far as my pregnancy goes, I am completely healthy, so there really anything more I can do in that area.
When you say you have worked on yourself, what do you mean? what have you done?
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
I have spent the past 6 months working on myself. That's why I'm ready to try to work on my marriage. As far as my pregnancy goes, I am completely healthy, so there really anything more I can do in that area.
When you say you have worked on yourself, what do you mean? what have you done?
