Good to hear from you Kevin. Will pop into your thread too.
25..Maybe that is why this woman was put into my life right now. To make me realize my life isn't that awful. I am looking forward to seeing her Friday. Will be fun.
Another hugely long night. Baby was up all night coughing from this cold. Literally every 20 or 30 minutes. I am so tired. I couldn't even get myself up early to work on my studying. This is one of the times when things start to spiral. Im tired, been up all night with baby, no time for studying now, makes me panic about the future and $$, get frustrated and worried, etc. Its a cycle.
Not sure if I should take baby to music class today. She is probably fine to go now, but I wouldn't want any other kids sick. She loves it so much though.
Exh sent a text last night asking how baby was. I just said she was fine. He then asked why I was so short. I probably shouldn't have responded but just said "Its best". He responded with "whatever you say".
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
S2, maybe you need some serious NAPS! Take them when you can. Just mho but if you are ragged out and don't want to spiral down, naps are God's gifts. But I can understand if you have "Cabin fever" too. Today, why not do for YOU whatever feels best?
Oh, as for your former h, who cares? Seriously...if he's so concerned about her, he can use his visitation times to discover how she is...ANYHOW.....get some rest! J-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Torn on my FB! I really like it to keep in contact with people, but I keep eliminating people that have anything to do with exh.
I was just on FB and was looking at someones pics from a party they were at...sure enough there is a pic of exh and MGF all cuddled up and smiling. Another with a beer in his hand. Nice. I didn't even know exh knew this guy!
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
My XW does not know what FB is. I think you too could do without it.
Keep in mind that there will be other pics of your XH from his past and his future which will be of a different nature that you may never see. I am talking mug shots and possible prison cell pictures.
Keep in mind that there will be other pics of your XH from his past and his future which will be of a different nature that you may never see. I am talking mug shots and possible prison cell pictures.
OMG that was hilarious! I can only hope you are right! Thank you for making me smile.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
SO2 - why not post an email asking your true friends to keep in touch via email, since you are trying to "simplify your life?" You might not get as many updates, but the ones you do get will be the ones that matter in the end, anyway (so much of FB that we see is gossip/unnecessary/time sucking, and that is from one who checks it daily!)
If it was good enough to look at pics, you would probably have been there to enjoy it first-hand, anyway ;0)
Just do what you need to be ok for now. Nothing is in stone nor forever, just back away from others temporarily if needed and pick up later if you choose. There aren't any rules here - except to take care of you.
that is so cool that this old friend has contacted you. She could probably really use a friend and I'm sure she misses having you as her friend. What a great opportunity for both of you.
yes, we all sometimes need to walk in someone elses shoes, and once we do, we probably would ask for ours back. My pastor and his wife have 4 children, and they were pregnant, due any moment, and the day she was to deliver, was the day the baby died. It was such a sad moment. I could not imagine. They even have beautiful pictures of the baby with the family, and she has the baby's footprints tatoo'd on her foot. I could not imagine losing a child either way.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
I think its just small town life and people thinking I really need to know this stuff about exh. My neighbor, who I talk to maybe once a month, sent a text asking if I saw this persons FB. I didn't even reply.
Like I said, I am torn on FB. I really like it for certain reasons. Keeps me feeling a bit connected to the world, my kids, etc. but filtering the possible crap is hard.
Exh has not seen baby since last Friday. He asked to come by yesterday but I said we were busy. Last night he was trying to ask me how wrestling was. Again no response, but he sent over and over..even with a 'hello? Whats going on?". Everytime I would even think about responding I picture those pictures of him and MGF last weekend.
Today going to get some things done with my mom. Gets me out of the house for a bit which is nice. Baby is feeling better and we slept better last night. Amazing how sleep affects your PMA!
I did have a little breakdown yesterday on the phone with my sister. I tried to open the poolcover yesterday to see what pool looked like and the pool cover is malfunctioning! UGGH! I just spent $1000 last summer fixing the stupid thing. With a baby I have to have that thing working properly. Not like I can just leave it open. So my sister called right after this and I just lost it. Felt like nothing was going right, one thing after the other, im tired, stressed, overwhelmed, sick of being home, lonely, wanting time to study, hating exh, etc. She just listened and it felt better to let go for a bit.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
it's okay to let it all out, sometimes you just got to let things go, and let it go out loud. I'm glad she just listened, that is good.
and good job not answering the many texts.
now, what steps can you do to start making things better, with your stress, tiredness, pool...etc.. maybe just take one thing at a time.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
(((SO2)))