He rejects her over and over again and yet she still pines after him. All the while leaning on me for support.
It's not that difficult. Can't you see? Give her what she wants...
REJECTION!
yep, make her chase after you.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
He rejects her over and over again and yet she still pines after him. All the while leaning on me for support.
It's not that difficult. Can't you see? Give her what she wants...
REJECTION!
I agree; she's not even leaving you for an actual relationship.
"All the while leaning on me for support"? You're not Anthony Michael Hall in Sixteen Candles; this is your wife we're talking about. It's one thing to have to handle an actual affair, it's another to handle a creepy obsessive crush.
Tell her she has five minutes to choose; get her head out of the clouds and stay with you, or pack her bags and find a place to stay if she wants to be with someone else.
Then start helping her pack.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
I edited my last post and added the following paragraph. "Reposted" so you don't miss it.
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Can a person be in love with the idea of another man?
I'm not a woman, but in answer to your question: "Yes, yes and yes!" She has created a fantasy in her mind that this man is everything she has ever dreamed of. Want to fight this? Well figure out what the OM has that draws her in... tease her with a taste of it... then push her away. Push / Pull, rinse and repeat. Think of this as the Art of Fishing. Dangle the bait, when she bites start reeling her in, let go a bit, reel in. etc..
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
this is what i get for snooping. She is out of the house living on her own. She continuously tries to invite this guy out to functions but he never responds.
She invites me to go out instead. I need to start saying no. bUt i have to be honest. Fear is keeping me from rejecting her.
But i have to try. She already wants the divorce so what else is there.
Spent the night at the W place again last night. I practiced being friendly but not too friendly. I was distant without ignoring her. Little by little i am detaching more and more.
I got the kid for the weekend today. I love her. But i feel terrible today. ALl i can think about is the W going out and potentially meeting up with OM. I don't know for sure if he will show up but she keeps inviting him to stuff.
The weirdest part is that she invited me to go to the movies today. It was in a group. But i went anyway. I couldn't have felt more awkward if my mom had walked in on me having sex or something.
She kept asking me what was wrong. I kept my distance and composure. She doesn't get to be worried about me and go out with OM. She doesn't get to be concerned about me when the OM is out there reaping the fruits of my support.
