Spot on Dia,not that I think we will backslide but it could easily happen.
One thing we did Sat night when H "picked me up" at the bar, was to talk about each other "in the context of having ex partners" in this we described to each other what we wanted from a life partner as though we were a couple just starting off looking for that special person and how the "ex" did not satisfy those needs desires.
This was a good way for us to get feelings and thoughts across in a non threatening way. Sounds silly but in a way this put the old R and M behind a now closed door with a big padlock on it and from now on this was our new R and M. Doing it this way neither of us felt that the other was being critical or hurtful.
Sounds like you are having lots of fun Oz! I love that idea of talking about each other in the ex-form that way....it really makes sense as to how that would be less threatening or hurtful. If opportunity should present itself...I will have that tip ready!
Dia, I love your metaphor comparing weight gain to letting old, bad relationship habits rear their ugly heads.
Oz, ditto on BC's response. REALLY like the idea of referring to each other as stbx's as a way to reframe your relationship as a new relationship. Well done!
Sounds like youre having great fun and so you should! If me and H get back together again Im certainly going to incorporate lots of fun and keep it all a bit sparkly! Totally get the weight thing Im trying to get back on track, happiness is not good for my waistline lol!
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
Work is absolutely crazy for me at the moment, so forgive me if I don't get around as much as I want to.
Just quickly, we have our naughty night out tomorrow night. Still don't know where we are staying, we are going out to dinner, then to a wine bar for some music and then back to the hotel. All stuff we did when we were younger.
I am finding that I feel so much more alive now, having activities to enjoy together to look forward to makes the week go so much faster.
Saturday, we have planned a BBQ with some friends and Sunday he is taking me jet skiing, something that hasn't been done in many many months and next week I will be on the back of a Harley that he is bringing home from work, we'll go for a cruise down the coast and stop off for coffee/lunch at a beachside cafe.
I can't believe we let so much of life's wonderful things on offer pass us by for so many years. Certainly won't do that again.
Such a relief to get the specialist appointments out of the way isn't it.
Hi Harry
Good luck, I haven't seen your thread, will go looking today if I get a minute. Just take your time, you can't hurry any of this, it unfolds as it is ready. You will find lots of helpful stuff here and on some of the other threads, have you been to Dia's thread, check hers out as well, well worth reading.
