The question is: Should I tell his wife? I don't have her phone number but I have their address. I want to sent a certified letter directed to her but I want to remain anonymous. How can I do it?
Me:52 W:50 M:30 D:19S:27 Discovered EA:08/08 denied W insisted on D+ILYBNILWY:08/08 Exposed wrong OMW:10/08 Found exact OM's ID 2/09 Expose OMW son, not sure OMW knows yet 25 months after still a rollercoaster
If you do it, DON'T do it anonymously. Your wife will be livid if you expose them, and you want to be able to take the high road and say "I thought she should know the truth," and "I'm doing this to fight for our marriage," etc. If you do it anonymously, it will just come across as a chickenchit move.
I do think she has a right to know, however -- why should she be the only one (of the four of you) who DOESN'T???
Thanks Puppy for answering. I have been into this dilema for almost a year. My wife did cut all communications with the OM. We are posetively going to a full recovery and I hope in a short period of time we can live our lives 100% as we were before. I don't want to screwed it. We just came back from a wonderfull 1 month family vacation overseas. However I still feel like this OMW need to know the true, but believe me I don't seem I want to expose our address and names. I could include an email address so she could feedback me any question regarding my discovery. I don't know.
Me:52 W:50 M:30 D:19S:27 Discovered EA:08/08 denied W insisted on D+ILYBNILWY:08/08 Exposed wrong OMW:10/08 Found exact OM's ID 2/09 Expose OMW son, not sure OMW knows yet 25 months after still a rollercoaster
If your wife has truly cut all contact, that's a much stickier moral dilemna. I'd probably be inclined to not say anything, but I'd like BOTH of the "illicit couple" know that if they EVER so much as re-kindle even a SPARK of their R, then the guy's wife WILL know!!!
I will send the anonymous letter. I would love to see this assh&#e in pain and, I believe, my wife would like too. She told me he lie to her and told her he was divorced. I don't think she would care about this POSOM redneck anylonger. After the DD I have never had a moment of complete peace in my mind. I'm working on it. And yes, I would like to have a great celebration for my first year of reconciliation with my wife by sending this bomb letter to them. Do you think I will do it for revenge, hell yes!!! I will celebrate over his misery. GOD forgive me....
Me:52 W:50 M:30 D:19S:27 Discovered EA:08/08 denied W insisted on D+ILYBNILWY:08/08 Exposed wrong OMW:10/08 Found exact OM's ID 2/09 Expose OMW son, not sure OMW knows yet 25 months after still a rollercoaster
I dont understand how this is going to help you. Does your W know that you plan to do this? Im not sure that she will even believe the letter, esp if its sent anonymously.
I understand the need for her to know, and I agree that she should know if her H is being a cad, but I dont know, it seems tragic for you to have a hand in the unravelling of their M, and to be taking a pleasure in it...
Maybe you could have your W do the no contact letter and send that instead.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
Not, she hasn't contact this guy, at least none for the last month while we were on vacations overseas. I don't think she will be interested on sending any contact letter. She doesn't even want me or herself to mention anything about this. I will do it by myself. I will send it, if she doesn't believe it I don't give a sh$#, that will at least will wake her up. "...it seems tragic for you to have a hand in the unravelling of their M..." He never though about how tragic and devastated this will be if I ever discover the affair...and believe me, both my wife and me went thru very difficult days after the DD, we were even thinking about commiting suicide. Thank GOD it never happened. I'm sorry if you dont agree.
Me:52 W:50 M:30 D:19S:27 Discovered EA:08/08 denied W insisted on D+ILYBNILWY:08/08 Exposed wrong OMW:10/08 Found exact OM's ID 2/09 Expose OMW son, not sure OMW knows yet 25 months after still a rollercoaster
It's not that we have to all agree on everything, dgtal, it's just that you come on here and ask everyone for advice on what you should do, pretty much everyone says "DON'T SEND IT" -- even me, who's probably THE most pro-exposure person on the entire forum -- and yet you decide to do it anyway.
