Don't Give Up!!!!

[AnonymousJane73]

I just 'popped' in here because I have a friend who is now going through a tough time in her marriage, which reminded me of my time a year ago. I just wanted to pass on to anyone that is struggle that DON'T GIVE UP!!!

You can turn things around, you can make things work, but in order to do that, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE be honest with yourself, and really do the work, be PATIENT, the steps are so essential.

It was a year ago that I was on this very forum, confused, and utterly devastated about what was happening to my marriage, my life. Since that time, things have so turned around and I have never been so happy. The blame game is over, the resentment has been resolved, and my husband and I are truly working together- again.

You can not expect a miracle to happen over night, but miracles do happen when you truly stop and focus on your self. My confidence is stronger than before, and my DH's is so much more confident in himself. Our marriage is stronger than it's ever been, and we truly are laughing and enjoying each other's company again. Communication is so essential, but you can't force it!!!!! So, please, be patient, read DR, and really think about your part and work the steps.

[Coach]

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[givingitmyall]

Jane,

It is great to read about success stories. We get so wrapped up in the usual posts, we sometimes forget to look at the successes.

Thanks. And this was particularly appropriate for me.

[mlj]

Hi Jane ~

Thank you for your words of encouragement.

If you don't mind, and if it doesn't bring up too many hurtful memories... could you please tell us a little of what you went through. Did H have ow? Did you separate? Did either of you file for D?

Thanks,
MJ

[drew7]

Hi Jane thanks for the words.. I am around 2 months separated from my W and as you can probably imagine and am in the midst of detachtment myself. It is a bit of a rollercoaster and it does try the patience. It is little posts like this that help me (and hopefully others) on course


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Drew

[Refuse to quit]

Jane thanks for that. I always try to look at how long it took someone else before the problem was resolved. I have been in this about 3 1/2 months and I hope to no end that I am halfway there. I can't imagine going on with this much longer. How long had you been married before this happened? Just curious. For me it has been just over 6 years. Again thanks for the uplifting words.
RTQ

[JKL2009]

So it does work? ;-) I6t does help us in the middle of things to be reminded it takes time, but things do work out.

[mac-ct]

Hi there ITQ,

To Jane - I echo the thanks of my peers to you.
An inspiration of the highest order.

itq -

Take a look around this community and answer your own question.

"How long?"

Time is our friend

Every day takes us closer to our goal in life.

Hugs

Mac

[Entangled]

Thanks Jane! It really helps to hear some positive stories when you're bogged down in the D quagmire.

Patience, positive changes, and working towards my goals!

[lonelywolf]

Thank you.