K4D Rising #4

[K4D]

I also think that your wife still very definitely feels your neediness.

Just my opinion, based only upon reading your posts. I could be wrong.

Puppy

Puppy,

There is a good chance of that. I thought I might have spent to much time talking to W at D11's birthday party. But I recognize that now and won't make the same mistake at Christmas or at D7's birthday. I will be more focused on the kids and try to prevent anything coming across as neediness. I think I was just happy that things were going so well that day and there was no tension in the air. But I might have over done it. So at least I am aware of that now.

Kevin

[MrBond]

That's not where your neediness comes across. It's when you ask why she even asks you about the lease and questioning her motives for every action (good or bad) that she does. You still hinge on that and that's where the neediness comes across.

So have you made up your mind if you plan to pursue OW while you're waiting for your W?

[Super Girl]

So have you made up your mind if you plan to pursue OW while you're waiting for your W?

I think it would be good for him.

[K4D]

That's not where your neediness comes across. It's when you ask why she even asks you about the lease and questioning her motives for every action (good or bad) that she does. You still hinge on that and that's where the neediness comes across.

So have you made up your mind if you plan to pursue OW while you're waiting for your W?

Stuck,

I wasn't hinging on her asking. I was curious as to why she keeps asking.

I have dropped the OW and I don't plan to further pursue her or someone else.

Kevin

[K4D]

I think it would be good for him.

SG,

It was a nice ego boost and built my confidence some. But I really didn't feel right about it.

Kevin

[MrBond]

"I wasn't hinging on her asking. I was curious as to why she keeps asking."

The fact that you keep asking "why" or are even curious about "why" then you are hinging.

[K4D]

The fact that you keep asking "why" or are even curious about "why" then you are hinging.

Ok. I didn't realize it was hinging. I figured it was just curiousity. But I can accept that. Maybe it was hinging.

Kevin

[breakaway]

Kevin, I would imagine she just wants to make sure you have your sh!t together about a place to live since her children live with you half the time.

[breakaway]

in your case, i don't have as much of a problem with it. I certainly wouldn't say "offended".

IDK, I just tend to not air as much stuff out there for public consumption or whatever. That's just me though. We all have our own thread 'abodes' and we can do whatever we want with them. That is the cool part. Just a micro of life really.

T

Alcoholism is pretty fundamental to anyone's situation that has alcoholism in it. I can't imagine why you would judge her about including that information as it informs the reader about a MAJOR problem in the relationship.

How's that any different from people putting down their WAS's affairs in their signatures. Isn't that broadcasting their "faults?" No, it's explaining the situation.

Alcoholic families are bred on "not telling." So telling is one of the best things SO2 can do.

[K4D]

How's that any different from people putting down their WAS's affairs in their signatures. Isn't that broadcasting their "sins?" No, it's explaining the situation.

I took my W's affairs out of my signature because I decided I shouldn't be broadcasting it in every post. If it comes up, that is one thing. But I am not just going to keep putting it out there on every single post I submit. But that was my own personal choice.

Kevin