need quick help to not speak about the R

[bhmd]

i get to go to my daughter's swimmeet in about an hour. My W will be there, and today is the second consecutive day that I have "let her go". need some quick reinforcement, encouragement, advice as I go to the swim meet as we all sit together.

thanks....

[SmileysPerson]

You've got the perfect topics of conversation right there -- daughter, swimmers, swimming. Should WAW broach any R-related topics, simply smile, sort of wave your hands around the stands, and say, "You know, that's an important topic, but I just don't think this is the right place for it."

[bhmd]

thanks, but i am usually the one that brings it up. trying to turn over a new leaf with giving her space....i am there for my daughter.....

[SmileysPerson]

You've still got the perfect topics of conversation. And since the swimmeet isn't the right place to bring it up, and since you're a savvy, smart, self-controlled fellow, wave your hands around and tell yourself, "You know, that's an important topic, but I just don't think this is the right place for it."

In other words, will it help you or your daughter if you bring it up? If not, stifle.

[bhmd]

ok, fingers crossed!!!!

[bhmd]

I SURVIVED AND DID NOT BRING UP THE R. Additionally, she went and got a tattoo and was excitedly talking to me about it and I just acted somewhat interested in hearing about it, not overly enthusiastic. After about an hour she asked me "Well, don't you want to see it?"

Also, when I first got to the swim meet, I kinda hung out by the snack table and was waiting for our swim team to do their chant and clear the deck. She came over to locate me.....I guess it is a small sign.....

[Entangled]

Congrats! Nice job. Sounds like you handled the situation perfectly. I love the fact that you didn't ask to see the tat, it must have been killing you not to!

[sandi2]

I lost you! You have more than one thread? Okay, just hope you will continue to post often and build up your support group.