Has been going to counseling and/or taking meds? I know it's kind of a touchy subject that people don't like to admit but hey, if if it helps, why not? I don't mean marriage counseling, I mean personal. Been exploring options myself as I keep going 1 step forward, 1 backward personally.
I`ve two hands up on that one-one for meds-just xanax( a tranquiliser) for my bottom drawer when things get just too difficult to handle here.
I went to three different cousellors and found them useful to a small degree. They listened, and nodded and said I was ok. Then I found the most terrific therapist who listened, and probed and told me bluntly about my part in the M breakdown. Wow! I`d been blaming my WS all along!
Friends are great for support-but they`ll take your side. family are wonderful too-but they`ll KILL for you. A really decent therapist will hear more than you`re saying and draw more of you out and put you in a better place to understand and heal yourself.
Haaaa! You crack me up dday. Too bad you don't live in Chicago. Well, we could take this one step farther....What would Jack Bauer do? Probably suck it up and go after more terrorists and take it out on them. On a more serious note, I try to stay away from booze for now. I do go out with a couple friends every few weeks, but they still like to put 'em down at a good rate which for me is not a good thing at this point. I haven't kept in practice like them and a hangover+current situation= gates of hell the next day. It is not fun. Anyway: I have been on an 'anti' for the last couple of weeks. I was told that it would take the edge off. Jury is still out. Had a few days where my mind really cleared up, but then the 'fog' returned. I've been trying to get rid of the mental fatigue that I've had, because if I do that, I'm off and running as far as putting things back together personally. Been missing out on trips and concerts which sucks, but have just been draaaaained. If I was able to kick myself in the ass to get going, I would do it. LOL
Fallgirl...Xanax. Yup, know the stuff. Had a bad anxiety problem for about 6 months back in 93. I finally got so pissed off, I think I literally angered them away. I actually one day said C'mon (expletives) bring it on" when I felt one coming. They disappeared shortly after. I was prescribed that for when an attack came on. Yup, an alligator could be chewing on your leg and you would not care if you are on one of those. This time around, I'm just tired all of the time. I do sleep solidly, but then I do it for 12-13 hours. I can get away with this for awhile longer, but this is definitely not the way to go about accomplishing your goals and having a shot down the line of reconciliation. Uh, yeah, she will just feel sorry for me and come running back. On another planet, maybe, not here on earth though.
Whatu talk'n about Willis, I'm currently sitting in a chair 1.8 miles from the lake front in 60612? lol
Yeah, unfortunately, me and the reps from Miller brewing need to review "my stock" interest in their company as I'm losing track of my investment 12 ounces at a time.
My thing, I love beer, point blank simple. And there is nothing on this green earth short of doctor telling me it's time to knock it off or else, that I'm gonna give that up.
Unfortunately, the drawback, I lose control of that love every so often, but I recognize it as a issue that needs to be worked on. For the most part in the past month, I've been pretty good about other than the 4th of July and after having a really crappy day in the garage Saturday I sat around yesterday and put a few more down than I should of. But, responsibly, this morning I got up extra early as promissed and ran the errands I said I would and got my hungover butt to work.
I do not believe in AD's or any of the 'wonder drugs' out there. XW would consistantly want me on them for being depressed from HER controlling methods. Eh-eh, no way, tried once, became an absolute brain dead idiot, kinda like the guy on the Ike, doing 45 when traffice pace is (read WAS) 65, talking on the phone, tweasing his eyebrows while sipping his precious $5 latte (s/p).
EDIT-and we all know what Jack Bauer would do with the guys cell phone
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Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
Oh yeah: Regarding counseling, eh, I know the problems and the solutions regarding myself...not talking about the ex at all here.As stated, I get rid of the mental fatigue, that's at least half of my problem gone. Then I would move on to problem #2, and we all know what that is. I want to do the coaching thing, bit pricey, but hey, you have everything to possibly gain too. Um, in order to do that, I have to address the other issues first. Oh brother.
I don't BELIEVE it!! LOL!!! Ha! I'm in the southwest suburbs. About 8 from Midway. So you're a member of the 'High Life'. Yup, that's me! Either that or black and tan's. Yeah, I'm Irish.. 2 miles from the lake? Geeee, what a drag for you. I really am sorry. LOL. I don't like messing with AD's either, but I'm told that I can be off within 9 months and I'm looking for anything now to get my go-go back. You are right: They do make you a bit apathetic. Ok, 12-13 hours may be a little more than a 'bit'. If that don't change soon, it's bye, bye to that. I may sound like a wimp here, but they have for the most part knocked down the pain levels, plus I was getting alot of tension headaches.And I'm on the lowest dose...5mg. The cell phone? You have me on that one. He's smashed a few.....
Heh, used to be over in 'The Boulevard Manor' district of Cicero until the town fell apart. So yeah, life by Midway, sit in the yard have a conversation that has to pause every 2 minutes for 35 seconds as a plane is all of a couple hundred feet overhead, lol.
No, I only work downtown, I wish I still lived in Brookfield, but the D forced me further out west with family.
"High life" all they way, hey, there's 6 'extra' cans in the case that still cost less than the premiun stuff, so what the hey.
Smashing cell phones? Haha, I ahve a heck of story on that one, I will say, Nokias are some tuff phones.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
Wow....I actually was staying with a buddy in Berwyn until recently. I wanted to get back closer to familiar territory, etc. so now I'm in the 60453 area...Short stay with a family member, looking for a decent place to rent. Maybe a condo. Lot of crap to get in order. Find place, get movers to move crap out of storage to new place, need a couch, some work done on the car....oh it's going to be a fun month, but I want to get this done so I can relax a bit and maybe take a trip. Let the hair down so to speak. Let me guess: You pretended your cell was a baseball, threw a fastball, hit the wall, and it didn't break
