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Suggest spouse read DR if we're separated? #1799175 07/11/09 07:27 PM
Joined: Jul 2009 Posts: 212 MA H hhh OP Member
OP hhh Member H Joined: Jul 2009 Posts: 212 MA	Can anyone advise if good or bad idea to ask WAS to read DR? My husband left about 7 months ago and seems to not want to work on the marriage. I've backed off and let him do his own thing, but feel like I am stuck waiting. Could this help?

Re: Suggest spouse read DR if we're separated? hhh #1799176 07/11/09 07:31 PM
Joined: May 2009 Posts: 3,844 Southeast G givingitmyall Member
givingitmyall Member G Joined: May 2009 Posts: 3,844 Southeast	No way. DR is for you, not him. If you have him read it, he will think your changes were only a ploy to try to keep him. This is especially true if he is not in a place to work on the marriage. Me 43, S11, D7 M13 Bomb 4/20/09 Current

Re: Suggest spouse read DR if we're separated? hhh #1799177 07/11/09 07:33 PM
Joined: Dec 2004 Posts: 1,255 Limboland T Trixi Member
Trixi Member T Joined: Dec 2004 Posts: 1,255 Limboland	Short answer- No! Longer answer- DR and DB are for YOU. It helps explain Getting A Life, 180's, cheeseless tunnels, etc. It's for saving you, first and foremost, and in the process hopefully the marriage. If you show him the book and then do a tip that you found in the book it will look insincere and look a 'ploy' to get him back. My 2 cents. FWIW. Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing

Re: Suggest spouse read DR if we're separated? Trixi #1799178 07/11/09 07:34 PM
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Trixi Member T Joined: Dec 2004 Posts: 1,255 Limboland	LOL Great minds think alike when cross-posting. Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing

Re: Suggest spouse read DR if we're separated? Trixi #1799184 07/11/09 07:50 PM
Joined: May 2009 Posts: 3,844 Southeast G givingitmyall Member
givingitmyall Member G Joined: May 2009 Posts: 3,844 Southeast	Yep. Haven't seen your name before. Surprised. Me 43, S11, D7 M13 Bomb 4/20/09 Current

Re: Suggest spouse read DR if we're separated? hhh #1799185 07/11/09 07:52 PM
Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 3,831 Connecticut G Gardener Member
Gardener Member G Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 3,831 Connecticut	NO. Why would you give away your strategic plan? Gardener "My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac

Re: Suggest spouse read DR if we're separated? Gardener #1799187 07/11/09 07:55 PM
Joined: Dec 2004 Posts: 1,255 Limboland T Trixi Member
Trixi Member T Joined: Dec 2004 Posts: 1,255 Limboland	Quote: Yep. Haven't seen your name before. Surprised. That's cuz I 'live' over in "we're separated." Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing

Re: Suggest spouse read DR if we're separated? Trixi #1799189 07/11/09 07:59 PM
Joined: May 2009 Posts: 3,844 Southeast G givingitmyall Member
givingitmyall Member G Joined: May 2009 Posts: 3,844 Southeast	Oh. I figured you probably hung around another forum. I have pretty much been here in newcomers. WAW. The WAS forum seems more geared to women who have WAH and women who are thinking about leaving their marriage. Me 43, S11, D7 M13 Bomb 4/20/09 Current

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