Why is it that reading other people's sitch's, it seems easy to give some advice, but on our own similar problems we are so unsure of what to do? random thoughts by ShockedOne
I'm sure that you're right about the detachment part. When you are in your own sitch, its clouded because what you should do, and what you want to do are completely opposite from each other.
Why is it that reading other people's sitch's, it seems easy to give some advice, but on our own similar problems we are so unsure of what to do?
Human nature. Detachment.
Early on I was advised by stillloves him to respond to my own initial postings and advise myself as I would a stranger in an unfamiliar situation. I did it (not here) and found it quite helpful. Should probably take another whack at it.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Man she leaves me so confused. Maybe it is because she is confused. I get home from work, the haircut is definitely noticed by the W(hehe). Although the conversation hasn't changed, her stance on D anyway, she is extremely nice and civil. Pleasant conversation.
Your friends S(FWH) & J(FBW) here. When FWH saw your post about her being so nice to you, he said "I wonder what she wants". Now you know. She may be confused, but she is still too deep in the fog and only thinking of herself and getting her next "fix". You have to think of her as a drug addict right now. I know you want to see signs of hope, but I think it may be too early for that. I know she will eventually come to her senses, but she is going to need some serious reality checks before that happens.
FWH was nice to me as long as I was not interfering in his little fantasy or if he wanted something. BUT, I would get the anger, threats, guilt. etc if I didn't cooperate. It's all about control.
Just wanted to add that you are getting some great info and insight on this forum. If you would like us to bow out and leave the forum for your private venue, we will understand and respect that. You know we are always available to you.
