These boards helped me so much when my marriage was falling apart and it's been months since I visited. My H moved out about one year ago and I was devastated. A few months later, he told me he was seeing someone. She is someone he knew for a while and though he swears he was not having an affair with her before he told me he wanted out of our M, I have my doubts.
But when he started seeing this woman is not the issue. I had a brief fling myself after H left. His R has continued and is clearly getting more and more serious--and it is KILLING me. My kids have not met the OW, but today I found out that my younger daughter has started an email correspondence with OW's son of the same age.
I have experienced so much pain and loss with all of this, have done my best to GAL and make lemonade from lemons, but these new bits of info just take me down. It was bad enough that my H told me ILYBINILWY about 18 months ago, worse that he refused to participate in counseling, even worse that he moved out. Now my financial situation is awful AND I've had to face the fact that H is in love with someone else.
All of that has felt unbearable at times--but now to think that the next step will be my kids getting to know OW and her kids? I simply can't stand that. I know it's probably best for my kids to know and accept their dad's GF, but I feel so sick over that, so completely rejected and wounded, that I don't know what to do.
I'm sure if I was in my own loving R, all of this would be easier to handle--but I'm not.
Thanks for letting me get that out!
Me/X-H: 47/48 T 19 yrs M 16 years D14 D10 ILYBINILWY: 10/07 H moved out 6/08
These boards helped me so much when my marriage was falling apart and it's been months since I visited. My H moved out about one year ago and I was devastated. A few months later, he told me he was seeing someone. She is someone he knew for a while and though he swears he was not having an affair with her before he told me he wanted out of our M . . .
. . .It was bad enough that my H told me ILYBINILWY about 18 months ago . . .
Oh, no, of course it didn't.
I'm guessing it started about 18 months ago.
I'm sorry you're here, but as you know, you can get some good support here. Me, I'm just feeling particularly cynical tonite, I guess.
I'm sorry you're here, but as you know, you can get some good support here. Me, I'm just feeling particularly cynical tonite, I guess.
Puppy
I'm sorry man... I'm going through nostalgia since I finally got an admission of the A this week. I feel sorry for W and how she's still lost and fogged out with her A.
lovemyguy:
Probably 18 months ago is accurate.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
