Hi Bonny, you have such clear insight and as someone at the same stage I value what you suggest. Hadn't thought that about H. Do I ask him for his thoughts?
Ha, yeah why would your H be so insistent that you not go? Don't think he's as independent of you as he might think.
I really wouldn't be worrying about what H feels about it, his parents are grown ups and as it is their house, they are free to invite whoever they so choose regardless of what others may think.
So, I would not ask H his feelings on the subject, if he has issues with it then they are his issues alone for him to deal with not you.
I think what I mean is that you decide whether to go or not, but give your H a heads up on your decision. Then if he has a problem he can deal with his parents.
Tonight I got an email from H to tell me about an artist I really like who is having a concert in our state. I'm obviously still on his mind in some way.
