OM a threat or just a friend? WAWs got an answer?

[Mr GK]

and now we just fb chatted for a while, I am not sure where to go regardig the guy, but I do believe that I need to move up there, asap! no job to hold me back!

but on the other hand, she considers our LS to be a divorce, and she can have whatever friends she wants.


I have to add that I was a horrible husband, neglectful, and critical, and did not help around the house. She loves the term abuse. And maybe it was. ot maybe her counselor is adding weight to something that was bad, only to make it worse.

All I can see, is that she is really hurt, and the counseling has not seemed to heal that yet. I think that I want to quit talking about relationship stuff with her.
is she so wrong to act the way she is, if I really hurt her once, and she felt violated?
I dont know!
I am tired! maybe I'll go read others postings....

[bluerain]

Still, I dont think that you can really call these things right or wrong. If she legitimately feels this way, and it sounds like you think she is, then all you can do is try to help her heal from that. You say yourself that you made mistakes, we all have, now you can take this chance to show her the changes that you have made.

Dont talk about the R anymore. That pressures her, and will make her resent you. I think that all thats left now is to just give her the time and space that she needs. I think that you can move up there and still give her space.

[Mr GK]

thanks Bluerain.

Her mantra if you will is, actions speak louder than words.
I have to run my personal marathon (from "run fatboy run").
I have to GAL and keep 180ing. having a hardtime with social life though. I surrounded myself with m wife and kids and neglected other friendships. Still working on having a social life.

she has been liking much of my actions. keep doing what is working and fix what needs fixing.