With as short as i can make it , me and wife have been together for 17 yrs since we were 12 and 13. best friends . money was always a huge issuse , but i always woke and did the best i could ,even exceled in the steel industry. well the economy crased in va. so i left for my brothers in houston to find work. she was hoping i would fail /seceed . i did got a great job sold our house , she had her ups and downs about it but did get on board. we got a place together for us and our two kids . she went back home to let the kids finish school. two weeks later she said she wanted a divorce and wasnt happy. the funny thing is i asked her a week prior how we made it this far she said because she loved me and knew i would give my life to make hers better. now she wont talk to me other than texts and is looking for her own place. i know she loves me but said she doesnt, but i cant see her or my kids. what do i do? i know if she would come here she would calm down . WHAT DO I DO?
me 27 w 26 d7 s5 t17 m7 moved to tx from va 02/25/09 sold home in va and moved 03/23/09 bomb 04/16/09 w&kids in va me in tx working
First, take a deep breath and try to calm down. You don't know that she loves you. It certainly doesn't help trying to convince her that she does.
You made the move and are kind of in a rough place here. For one thing, you absolutely can't stand for her saying that you can't see the kids. I would insist that you have every right. If she fights that, I'd get a lawyer and get at least some form of visitation sorted out. It's unacceptable. She'll hose you over 10 ways if you don't get that figured out. I'm not talking about being vindictive, but you can't allow yourself to be shoved out of the kids' lives.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
My Mantra: "What's best for my kids is best for me."
Originally Posted By: texasbobby
"WHAT DO I DO?"
First, ask yourself what is important to YOU?
My relationship with my kids is important to me. I focused on what was important. Reading all the books listed in the first post of my thread has gotten me to a great place. I was not going to let W's irrational behavior push me out of my kids lives.
Best advise I have is WORK ON YOU. You have a great opportunity to change things about yourself that you want to. Read the books I have listed...
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
im really thankful for the feed back. its not that she wont let me see the kids ,its im 1500 miles away and have adifficult time finding the time off work or the money. a good friend of mine and hers called and told me she was crying about everything and i just need to be supportive, i really do believe that she has an extreme fear of change.
our house sold in one week and she was thinking she had all summer with her friends and family. when we moved here she picked out the place, her name is on the lease and all the bills. she said she never wanted to move here, but all of her stuff including fammily aire looms are here.
im making many new friends one of which had the exact same stich his wife told me its going to take some db work for her father as well. he is hearing the negative and trying to protect his daughter although her mother calls me regulary as well as her brothers.
im having a difficult time being her friend, she is scared to talk to me. any advice?
me 27 w 26 d7 s5 t17 m7 moved to tx from va 02/25/09 sold home in va and moved 03/23/09 bomb 04/16/09 w&kids in va me in tx working
