A week and a half ago my W found out from her L that I am keeping her dad in the psychological evaluation related to child custody. So it got very messy around here. Nothing I couldn't handle, and nothing that threw me off too far.
She's been in this mode of not doing anything together with the kids so I've had them to myself quite a bit. It's all great with me because I really enjoy the time I get with my kids.
She had a meeting with her L on Saturday and she stayed over her mom's house Sat night and didn't come home till bed time last night. She called me yesterday afternoon to see if I was still going Kayaking at 5pm and I told her it was cancelled. She said she was just going to stay at her mom's house and would be home later on in the evening. I said that was fine. Then she said they were going to look at houses. I asked, "You're looking for a house?" Then she quickly followed up with... "Just for fun and something to do." Of course I know it was BS and she actually slipped it out. I had to laugh inside. I didn't say anything about it and just got off the phone.
I'm not sure what the next thing is but the ball is in her court to make a move so I'll just keep continuing on until something changes.
I got home from work today and saw her car wasn't here. I went inside and she had left a message on the phone saying they were at her parents house and she wasn't sure what time they would be home. I knew something was up because normally she calls my cell phone to let me know what's going on.
When I went into the closet in the bathroom I noticed my kids' alergy medicine wasn't there so it dawned on me she was probably going to call later on to tell me they were going to sleep there.
I took a nap later on and got up around 7:30 and noticed she had called at 7:00 and left a message saying they were going to stay there tonight.
She's up to something but I'm not sure what. I guess it will show itself in time. Other than that, I can't waste time thinking about it.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!
Hi Mike. Thanks for stopping by. I'll have to come back later and update a bit more. I didn't realize it's been a weeks since I've posted here.
She's always with the kids so they usually tell me where they've been. So far she has always been where she says she's going.
The funny thing is she's starting to swing the other way. Yesterday she picked up some picture frames and paint and she asked if I would help paint them with her and the kids. She's also softened up a bit the past few days. This is typical behavior when something happens in the sitch that she doesn't like. She's gets really distant and aloof for a few days and then comes back around to being nice.
I'm not sure what she's going to do as far as the separation is concerned. I know she doesn't want her dad involved but she has no control over it. No matter what move she makes I don't see a way for it to move forward without him in it unless she just agrees to what I want as far as custody is concerned.
When I posted last I was thinking she was going to try and stay at her parents house a lot more but that wasn't the case. After last Monday they've been home every day. She's taking the kids up to her brothers lake house today until Thurs or Fri with her mom.
I'll update more later on. It's basically been non-eventful except for her roller coastering.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!
Steady... Thanks for your support. How is your sitch going? I hope it is better then mine.
The moving and throwing out of stuff has been at a feverish pace. She threw out a bunch of the kids gifts to her saying your the best mom etc. She broke several picture frames and threw them out along with the pictures of the family She is chucking everything. And pulling out stuff from her HS days
I do feel done. My W is now effecting our close friends marriage. My buddy's wife just sat him down and gave him the I'm not in love with you speach. It is getting quite ugly there as well as my house. But there are no grounds for divorce in either case. It has to be mutual seperation or nothing can happen. What a friggin mess this all is. Common thread is they are both on the same meds suffering from the same problems.
My W left my kids alone inthe house and told one story to my D as to why. Then told another story to me as to why. And then my buddy saw her and his wife at his house and they were goofing off on the computer and then went running. What afriggin liar. She left our kids at home alone to go goof off with her friend.
I am so worried about my kids when they are in her care. I wish she would just leave. It would be best for everyone.
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Just dropped by your thread and saw you haven't been around in a while. I can understand the crazy stuff that goes on. Sounds to me like your W is taking a trip off the deep end. And now she has a friend to join in with her. It's amazing how these things go.
I'm sure like me, you don't even recognize your wife anymore. I look at my W and wonder where the original version has gone. It's been going on for so long for me that I really don't feel like I care anymore.
The lying won't stop. Call her on it when you see it. Don't let her get away with it. She has her own demons to wrestle with and it's out of your control. Now you have to take care of yourself and the kids. My W has lied, rewritten the past, fabricated stuff and then actually got herself to believe it...it's just incredible.
Make sure you document stuff like she did with leaving the kids alone. You may not see a need for it now, but you never know down the road.
Hope you're doing ok.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!
